Thursday, June 28, 2007

Self-control is the key to success

Marshmallows and Public Policy
by David Brooks

The self-control test shows the ability to delay gratification correlates with socioeconomic status and parenting styles.

AROUND 1970, psychologist Walter Mischel launched a classic experiment. He left a succession of 4-year-olds in a room with a bell and a marshmallow. If they rang the bell, he would come back and they could eat the marshmallow. If, however, they didn't ring the bell and waited for him to come back on his own, they could then have two marshmallows.

In videos of the experiment, you can see the children squirming, kicking, hiding their eyes -- desperately trying to exercise self-control so they can wait and get two marshmallows. Their performance varied widely. Some broke down and rang the bell within a minute. Others lasted 15 minutes.

The children who waited longer went on to get higher SAT scores. They got into better colleges and had, on average, better adult outcomes. The children who rang the bell quickest were more likely to become bullies. They received worse teacher and parental evaluations 10 years later and were more likely to have drug problems at age 32.

The Mischel experiments are worth noting because people in the policy world spend a lot of time thinking about how to improve education, how to reduce poverty, how to make the most of the nation's human capital. But when policymakers address these problems, they come up with structural remedies: reduce class sizes, create more charter schools, increase teacher pay, mandate universal day care and try vouchers.

The results of these structural reforms are almost always disappointingly modest. Yet policymakers rarely ever probe deeper into problems and ask the core questions, such as how do we get people to master the sort of self-control that leads to success? To ask that question is to leave the policymakers' comfort zone -- which is the world of inputs and outputs, appropriations and bureaucratic reform -- and to enter the murky world of psychology and human nature.

Yet the Mischel experiments, along with everyday experience, tell us that self-control is essential. Young people who can delay gratification can sit through sometimes boring classes to get a degree. They can perform rote tasks in order to, say, master a language. They can avoid drugs and alcohol. For people without self-control skills, however, school is a series of failed ordeals. No wonder they drop out. Life is a parade of foolish decisions: teenage pregnancy, drug use, gambling, truancy and crime.

If you're a policymaker and you are not talking about core psychological traits such as delayed gratification skills, then you're just dancing around with proxy issues. The research we do have on delayed gratification tells us that differences in self-control skills are deeply rooted but also malleable. Differences in the ability to focus attention and exercise control emerge very early, perhaps as soon as nine months. But there is no consensus on how much of the ability to exercise self-control is hereditary and how much is environmental.

The ability to delay gratification, like most skills, correlates with socioeconomic status and parenting styles. Children from poorer homes do much worse on delayed gratification tests than children from middle-class homes. That's probably because children from poorer homes are more likely to have their lives disrupted by marital breakdown, violence, moving, etc. They think in the short term because there is no predictable long term.

The good news is that while differences in the ability to delay gratification emerge early and persist, that ability can be improved with conscious effort. Moral lectures don't work. Sheer willpower doesn't seem to work either. The children who resisted eating the marshmallow didn't stare directly at it and exercise iron discipline. On the contrary, they were able to resist their appetites because they were able to think about other things.

What works, says Jonathan Haidt, the author of "The Happiness Hypothesis," is creating stable, predictable environments for children, in which good behavior pays off -- and practice. Young people who are given a series of tests that demand self-control get better at it over time.

This pattern would be too obvious to mention if it weren't so largely ignored by educators and policymakers. Somehow we've entered a world in which we obsess over structural reforms and standardized tests, but skirt around the moral and psychological traits that are at the heart of actual success. Mischel tried to interest New York schools in programs based on his research. Needless to say, he found almost no takers.

This article appeared on page B - 7 of the San Francisco Chronicle, The New York Times, on Tuesday, May 7, 2006



Tuesday, June 19, 2007

Why wedding ring should put on the forth finger

Why wedding ring should put on the forth finger?
为什么婚戒要带在无名指上?

Just follow the steps mentioned below to realise how god makes this a miracle
请照着步骤做,你会发现上天造人的奥妙

1. Firstly, show your palm, centre finger bend and put together back to back.
首先大家伸出两手,将中指向下弯曲,对靠在一起,就是中指的背跟背靠在一起。

2. Secondly, the rest 4 fingers tips to tips.
然后将其他的4个手指分别指尖对碰。

3. Games begin, follow the following arrangement, 5 fingers but only 1 pair can split.
在开始游戏的正题之前,请确保以下过程中,5个手指只允许一对手指分开。


Here you go...
下面开始游戏的正题。

4. Try to open your thumb, the thumb represent parents, it can be open cause all human does go thru sick and dead. Which is our parents will leave us one day.
请张开你们那对大母指,大母指代表我们的父母,能够张开,每个人都会有生老病死,父母也会有一天离我们而去。

5. Please close up your thumb, then open your second finger, the finger represent brothers and sisters, they do have their own family which is too they will leave us too.
请大家合上大母指,再张开食指,食指代表兄弟姐妹,他们也都会有自己的家世,也会离开我们。

6. Now close up your second finger, open up your litter finer, this represent your children. Sooner or later they too will leave us for they got they own living to live.
请大家合上食指,再张开小母指,小母指代表子女,子女长大后,迟早有一天,会有自己的家庭生活,也会离开我们。

7. Nevertheless, close up your litter finer, try to open your further finger which we put our wedding ring, you will be surprise to find that it cannot be open at all. Because it represent husband and wife, this whole life you will be attach to each other.
那么,请大家合上小母指,再试着张开无名指。这个时候,大家会惊奇的发现无名指怎么也张不开,因为无名指代表夫妻,是一辈子不分离的。

Real love will stick together ever and forever
真正的爱,粘在一起后,是永生永世都分不开的。


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Here goes the same for physiognomy:
在命相学上也是这样:

Thumb represent parents (大姆指代表父母)
Second finger represent brothers & sisters (食指代表兄弟)
Centre finger represent own self (中指代表自己)
Fourth finger represent your partner (无名指代表配偶)
Last finger represent your children (小指代表子女)

Saturday, May 12, 2007

The Power of Now

Eckhart Tolle's non-fiction bestseller, The Power of Now, describes his experience of enlightenment at the age of 29 after suffering long periods of depression, dissolving his old identity and radically changing the course of his life. This book emphasizes the importance of being aware of the present moment as a way of not being lost in thought. In Tolle's view, the present is the gateway to a heightened sense of peace and aliveness. "Being in the now" also brings about an awareness that is beyond the mind. This awareness helps in transcending "the pain-body" that is created by the identification of the mind and ego with the body. His later book, A New Earth further explores the structure of the human ego and how this acts to distract people from their present experience of the world. His other works include Stillness Speaks, a book that modernises the ancient sutra form.

The aim of Tolle's teachings is the transformation of individual and collective human consciousness--a global spiritual awakening.

Core teachings that appear to arise from his works are:

1. You are not your thoughts. You are the awareness behind the thoughts. Thoughts are often negative and painful, yearning for or fearing something in the future, complaining about something in the present or fearing a matter from the past. However, the thoughts are not you; they are a construct of the ego. Awareness of your thoughts without being caught up in them is the first step to freedom.

2. Only the present moment exists. That is where life is (indeed it is the only place life can truly be found). Becoming aware of the 'now' has the added benefit that it will draw your attention away from your (negative) thoughts. Use mindfulness techniques to fully appreciate your surroundings and everything you are experiencing. Look and listen intently. Give full attention to the smallest details.

3. Accept the present moment. It is resistance to the present moment that creates most of the difficulties in your life. However, acceptance does not mean that you cannot take action to rectify the situation you are in. What is important is to drop resistance so that you let the moment be, and that any action arises from deeper awareness rather than from resistance. The vast majority of pain in a person's life comes from resistance to what is.

4. Observe the pain-body. Years of conditioned thought patterns, individually and collectively, have resulted in habitual emotional reactions with an apparent personality of their own. During 'pain-body attacks' we become completely identified with this 'pain identity' and respond from its agenda--which is to create more pain for ourselves and others. Observing the pain-body is awareness itself arising--as it allows humans to separate from this unconscious identification with pain.

Eckhart Tolle is not aligned with any particular religion or tradition.

Influences which are alluded to in The Power of Now are the writings of Meister Eckhart, Advaita Vedanta, A Course in Miracles and Zen Buddhism's Lin-chi (Rinzai) school. The book also interprets sayings of Jesus from the Bible.

Thursday, May 10, 2007

How Anchoring Can Lead You To Success

Have you ever wondered why Sports brand Nike pay sports stars millions of dollars to wear clothes brandishing the famous swish logo? They do it because they understand the power of anchoring.

Nike paid Tiger Woods and Michael Jordan millions of dollars to don the 'Nike' cap and apparel. Were they crazy?

No! They were aware that by having them put on the Nike equipment, consumers would associate 'Nike' with similar intense states of motivation and inspiration that is projected by these two famous sports personalities.

When people watched Jordan and felt incredible, they would see the Nike Swish. Sure enough, seeing the swish gave people great feelings and states of power, motivation and confidence which were anchored to the visual swish logo.

By using the power of anchoring, Nike has become the largest and most successful sports apparel company in the world. When Nike first started paying millions of dollars to sports stars, many of their competitors thought they were mad to waste so much money but at the end of the day it is Nike who is laughing all the way to the bank.

Don't get manipulated...create your own powerful anchors!

If advertisers spend millions of dollars to constantly anchor powerful states in you to their brands, isn't it time you took control and started creating powerful anchors for yourself?

Do you know how couples fall deeply in love? They get fantastic feelings of love anchored to a person's face and voice.

As time is spent together, anchors of all these great feelings start to be linked with their partner's face and voice. So, every time they think of each other, they feel wonderful!

Conversely, why do people often fall out of love after a while? It is because the positive anchors eventually collapse and are replaced with negative anchors.

When you are in a relationship, you are bound to have misunderstandings and unhappy moments. The danger comes when you see your partner's face while you are feeling these negative emotions.

After some time, those negative feelings of hurt and anger get linked to that person's face, voice and touch.

Over time, just thinking of that person brings up all those negative feelings. This is why many people, once so in love, reach a stage when they cannot see each other without getting upset and fighting. As a result, they eventually fall out of love and break up!

Anchoring is a process that we all are subjected to, all the time. We must understand the power of anchoring for two reasons.

The first is to install powerful anchors so that resourceful states can be accessed at any time we need to perform at our peak.

The second is to understand how negative anchors limit us. This way, we can collapse them and stop them from controlling us.

Once you understand how anchors can work to help you tap into your most resourceful states, you can use it to move you faster towards your goals!

So make use of the power of anchoring now to lead you to success.


To Your Success

Adam Khoo
www.SuccessWithNLP.com

Tuesday, May 08, 2007

生命的价值

  在一次讨论会上,一位著名的演说家没讲一句开场白,手里却高举着一张20美元的钞票。

  面对会议室里的200个人,他问:“谁要这20美元?”一只只手举了起来。他接着说:“我打算把这20美元送给你们中的一位,但在这之前,请准许我做一件事。”他说着将钞票揉成一团,然后问:“谁还要。”仍有人举起手来。

  他又说:“那么,假如我这样做又会怎么样呢?”他把钞票扔到地上,又踏上一只脚,并且用脚碾它。尔后他拾起钞票,钞票已变得又脏又皱。

  “现在谁还要?”还是有人举起手来。

  “朋友们,你们已经上了一堂很有意义的课。无论我如何对待那张钞票,你们还是想要它,因为它并没贬值。它依旧值20美元。人生路上,我们会无数次被自己的决定或碰到的逆境击倒、欺凌甚至碾得粉身碎骨。我们觉得自己似乎一文不值。但无论发生什么,或将要发生什么,在上帝的眼中,你们永远不会丧失价值。在他看来,肮脏或洁净,衣着齐整或不齐整,你们依然是无价之宝。生命的价值不依赖我们的所作所为,也不仰仗我们结交的人物,而是取决于我们本身!你们是独特的——永远不要忘记这一点!”

Thursday, April 19, 2007

Feng Shui the Wardrobe

Adapted from Clear Your Clutter with Feng Shui, by Karen Kingston.

Most people wear about 20 percent of their wardrobe 80 percent of the time. If you doubt me, do this test for a month: each time you wear something and launder it, hang it at one end of your wardrobe. At the end of the month you will find (unless you have deliberately changed your habits to beat this exercise or have a job that requires you to vary your outfits often) you are wearing these same clothes most of the time.

Actually it's not just the clothes you wear that follow this 20/80 pattern. It can be applied to everything else you own and to most activities in life. We all get 80 percent of our results from 20 percent of our efforts (this is known in the business world as the Pareto Principle, named after an Italian economist who first figured it out). Similarly, we get 80 percent use from 20 percent of our belongings.

So when it comes to clearing out your wardrobe, first separate your clothes honestly into the 20 percent you love to wear and the 80 percent that are just taking up space, and it becomes much easier to dump the excess.

When sorting through your 80 percent pile, it is wise to get clear on your criteria for whether something stays or goes. First check out the colors. A great investment is to have a professional color consultation to discover which colors uplift and enhance your energy, and which colors do the opposite. You will walk away with a swatch of color samples that are sure to make you look and feel great, and this does wonders for your self-assurance.

This helps you to sift through at least 50 percent of your clothes and discard them forever, because it suddenly becomes abundantly obvious to you that they never did anything for you in the first place.

Next, try on each item in the remaining pile and see how you feel. If you don't like the shape, the texture, the cut, the material, or anything else about it, let it go. You owe it to yourself to create a collection of outfits you absolutely love, so that never again do you open a wardrobe bulging with clothes and moan, "But I've got nothing to wear!"

Make a decision to never, ever buy anything again that isn't quite what you want, because now you know it will just end up in the 80 percent pile and you will have wasted your money. Resolve to buy only clothes that you love and that look great on you, and if this means that you buy three gorgeous outfits that cost a bit more rather than twenty cheaper ones, so be it.

And, yes, I recommend you do this even if you are short of money. In fact, making a point of always looking good and feeling good is one of the best ways you can raise your energy and so attract better prosperity to yourself.

Clothes and Energy Vibrations
Some people keep things they haven't worn in over twenty years. They say that if they hang on to them long enough they will come back into fashion. My advice is: if you haven't worn it in the last year, and especially if you haven't worn it in the last two or three years, then let it go.

Tuesday, April 17, 2007

Things Are Not Always Black or White

When i was in elementary school, I got into a major argument with a boy in my class.... I have forgotten what the argument was about, but I have never forgotten the lesson I learned that day.

I was convinced that "I" was right and "he" was wrong ... and he was just as convinced that "I" was wrong and "he" was right. The teacher decided to teach us a very important lesson. She brought us up to the front of the class and placed him on one side of her desk and me on the other. In the middle of her desk was a large, round object. I could clearly see that it was black. She asked the boy what color the object was. "White," he answered....I couldn't believe he said the object was white, when it was obviously black!

Another argument started between my classmate and me, this time about the color of the object. The teacher told me to go stand where the boy was standing and told him to come stand where I had been. We changed places, and now she asked me what the color of the object was. I had to answer, "White." It was an object with two differently colored sides, and from his viewpoint it was white. Only from my side was it black.

My teacher taught me a very important lesson that day: You must stand in the other person's shoes and look at the situation through their eyes in order to truly understand their perspective...because once you have closed your mind to thinking that only you are right, you have actually rejected the whole truth...

Thursday, April 05, 2007

Life philosophy - filling of an empty jar

When things in your life seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a day are not enough, remember the story of an empty jar and the 2 cups of coffee.

A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, wordlessly, he picked up a very large empty jar and proceeded to fill it with rocks until the top of the jar.

He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was! So the professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles, of course, rolled into the open areas between the rocks. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous "yes."

The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar, effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed.

"Now," said the professor, as the laughter subsided, " I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The rocks are the important things - your health, your family, your partner, your children, your friends, your favorite passions - things that if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full.

The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house, and your car. The sand is everything else - the small stuff.

If you put the sand into the jar first, there is no room for the pebbles or the rocks. The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are important to you.

Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play with your children. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your partner out to dinner. Play another 18. There will always be time to go to work, clean the house, give a dinner party and fix the disposal"

Take care of the rocks first, the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand."

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee represented.

The professor smiled. "I'm glad you asked. It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there's always room for a couple of cups of coffee with a friend."

Friday, March 30, 2007

Vibration in Universe

James Arthur Ray


You live in a vibrational universe
everything is vibration
from thought to thing.

Science and spirituality both agree
that what appears to be empty
space is actually a field of unlimited
consciousness and potential.

You are a creative
force within this
unlimited universe
and you create in
three domains

First, the world of thought
–which is the domain of intention

Intention is a vibration

Second, the world of body and motion
– this is the domain of
emotion. Emotion is
nothing more than
energy in motion

All emotions and actions
vibrate

And finally the world of feeling
feeling is the
ultimate vibration

Feeling is visceral –
you literally
“feel” in your body

Every feeling you sustain in your body creates
a biochemical change and simultaneously
sends a vibrational message to the Universe
calling forth a harmonizing vibration.

In this way your thoughts, feelings, and
actions create from the field of unlimited
potential and possibility.

When all three of your worlds come
together vibrationally – You create
anything you choose – Anything!



Wednesday, March 28, 2007

What Matters in Life

(Author Unknown)

Some people understand life better

And they call some of these people "retarded"...

At the Seattle Special Olympics, nine contestants, all physically or mentally disabled, assembled at the starting line for the 100-yard dash.

At the gun, they all started out, not exactly in a dash, but with a relish to run the race to the finish and win.

All, that is, except one little boy who stumbled on the asphalt, tumbled over a couple of times, and began to cry. The other eight heard the boy cry.

They slowed down and looked back. Then they all turned around and went back every one of them. One girl with Down's Syndrome bent down and kissed him and said,"This will make it better."

Then all nine linked arms and walked together to the finish line.

Everyone in the stadium stood, the cheering went on for several minutes.

People who were there are still telling the story... Why? Because deep down we know this one thing: What matters in this life is more than winning for ourselves.

What matters in this life is helping others win, even if it means slowing down and changing our course.

Thursday, March 22, 2007

Be Very Specific About Your Goal

The first step to getting what you want is to know exactly what it is that you want. This sounds simple and obvious enough? Yet, sadly most people never seem to get what they want, simply because they are not clear about what it is they want in the first place!

Unless you have a specific target, you cannot develop an effective strategy to get there. The strategy required to make $200,000 is completely different from the strategy needed to make $20 million. The moment you clarify your goals, see them in your mind-eye (it’s called creative visualization) you will start to have focus in your life. It will then become crystal clear to you what it is you must do to get there.

Biographies of the most successful and legendary people, again in all pursuits, show time and again that their outstanding achievements are rarely outcomes of chance. They did not have success thrust onto them. Their phenomenal successes are the results of clearly defined outcomes that they had predetermined, and worked towards unwaveringly, often at a very early stage of their life.

At the age of eight, Tiger Woods set his goal of breaking every record set in golf and to become the world’s number one golfer. He accomplished this feat 13 years later at the age of 21. How? He spent those fourteen years focusing on his game in order to take it to the level he needed in order to be the best.

At the age of 12, Steven Spielberg knew that what he wanted to do was to tell stories to the world by making movies. It was this specific goal that directed him to spend his time making home videos at the age of 12 and exposing himself to movie sets at universal studios at the age of 18. It was these years of focused effort that allowed him to build the level of experience and skill he needed to make some of the best movies around.

Very few successful experiences happen by chance…whether it is winning a race or a position. Almost all happen by design. Yet, the sad fact is that most people do not have a plan for their lives, and end up falling into somebody else’s plan. It’s only when we know what we want very specifically that we are then able to focus all our talents and energy.

Like a laser beam honing in on its target. And in moving unwaveringly towards it, we develop the resources necessary to make it happen. Wherever you are in your life right now, you must begin to set specific goals on what you want to achieve in the different areas of your life.

About The Author
Adam Khoo is an entrepreneur, best-selling author and a self-made millionaire by the age of 26. Over the last 15 years, he has trained over 245,000 professionals, executives and business owners to tap their personal power and achieve excellence in their various fields of endeavor.

Sunday, February 18, 2007

Track's Decision

Daily Thinking Bread.....

A group of children were playing near two railway tracks, one still in use while the other disused.
Only one child played on the disused track, the rest on the operational track.

The train came, and you were just beside the track interchanger.
You could have made the train change its course to the disused track and saved most of the kids.
However, that would also mean the lone child playing by the disused track would be sacrificed.
Or would you rather let the train go its way?
Let's take a pause to think what kind of decision we could make.

Most people might choose to divert the course of the train, and sacrifice only one child.
You might think the same way, I guess. Exactly, I thought the same way initially because to save most of the children at the expense of only one child was a rational decision most people would make, morally and emotionally.

But, have you ever thought that the child choosing to play on the disused track had in fact made the right decision to play at a safe place?
Nevertheless, he had to be sacrificed because of his ignorant friends who chose to play where the danger was.

This kind of dilemma happens around us everyday. In the office, community, in politics and especially in a democratic society, the minority is often sacrificed forthe interest of the majority, no matter how foolish or ignorant the majority are, and how far-sighted and knowledgeable the minority are.

The child who chose not to play with the rest on the operational track was sidelined. And in the case he was sacrificed, no one would shed a tear for him. The friend whoforwarded me the story said he would not try to change the course of the train because he believed that the kids playing on the operational track should have known very well that track was still in use, and that they should have run away if they heard the train's sirens. If the train was diverted, that lone child would definitely die because he never thought the train could come over to that track!

Moreover, that track was not in use probably because it was not safe. If the train was diverted to the track, we could put the lives of all passengers on board at stake!


My friend is not a politician. However, in a democratic society, a politician should by all means garner the support of the majority. To sacrifice one far-sighted visionary is only one vote lost, but to sacrifice the ignorant majority may cost the politician his majority support.

Whatsoever decision you are going to make, my dear friend, choose not to stay away from the crowd and be sacrificed, unless you come across someone like that far-sighted friend of mine.


"Life moves pretty fast. If you don't stop to look around once in a while you could miss it."

Saturday, February 17, 2007

Beliefs - The Key to Potential Power

When we believe that something is possible, we will summon all the resources within and around us have to support that belief. We will open the tap to our creativity, energy and resources.

Does this mean that we will produce the exact result we envisioned? Not all the time. Still, having a belief of possibility will allow us to produce results far beyond what we can achieve than compared to having no belief to begin with.

Our beliefs not only affect our performance and results, they also affect the people we interact with as well. As a teacher, parent or boss, the beliefs you have about your students, children and employees will affect how you treat them, how they respond, ultimately resulting in their performance.

Have you ever heard of the Pygmalion effect? This psychological phenomenon was first presented by Robert Merton, a professor of sociology at Columbia University in 1957. It is about how our expectations of other people can create a self-fulfilling prophecy.

The study involved a teacher who was instructed to teach a new class of gifted students for the school year. In truth, these students had been tested and found to be of low I.Q. Moreover, they had behavioral problems.

Sure enough, when she started teaching, the students started misbehaving not caring to learn or respond. Because she believed they were students with high IQ, she figured that she was the cause of the problem, not the students!

She started to take responsibility for their misbehavior and disinterest in learning. She reflected that it could be due to her teaching style being too boring not stimulating enough to capture the attention of these gifted, demanding children.

Experimenting and changing the way she taught, she started to encourage them, arouse their curiosity, challenging them with games and activities, nurturing them along the whole process. The more she treated them like gifted students, the more the students responded.

At the end of the school year, the academic grades of the students jumped tremendously. And when retested, their IQs measured a 20-30 point increase on average.

She literally created gifted students! (Think of how supposedly slow learners languishing and underperforming because of uninspiring teachers?)

In his work called 'Social Theory and Social Structure', Merton said the phenomenon occurs when "a false definition of the situation evokes a new behavior which makes the original false conception come true."

In other words, once an expectation is set, even if it isn't accurate, we tend to act in ways consistent with that expectation. Often and surprisingly, the result is that the expectation, as if by magic, comes true.

At the same time, if we believe that a particular goal or desire is beyond our reach we shut out all possibility of ever achieving it. Choose empowering beliefs, beliefs that will drive us forward calling forth the inexhaustible resources we all possess, turning on the tap of our potential power.


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Friday, February 16, 2007

Love is Love

"Cute Tigers"

In a California zoo, a mother tiger gave birth to a rare set of triplet tiger cubs. Unfortunately, due to pregnancy complications, the cubs were born prematurely and died shortly after birth. Mother tiger after recovering from the delivery, suddenly started to decline in health, although physically fine. The vets felt that the loss of her litter had caused her to fall into a depression. The doctors decided that if she could surrogate another mother's cubs, perhaps she would improve. After checking with many other zoos, the depressing news was that there were no tiger cubs of the right age to introduce to the tiger mother. The vets decided to try something that had never been tried in a zoo environment. Sometimes a mother of one species will take on the care of a different species. The only "orphans" that could be found quickly, were a litter of wiener pigs. The zoo keepers and vets wrapped the piglets in tiger skin and placed the babies around the mother tiger. The results ........





Love is Love - no matter where it's found and that's why we're all in love.

Thursday, February 15, 2007

TO BE A MILLIONAIRE

A jobless man applied for the position of "office boy" at Microsoft. The HR manager interviewed him then watched him cleaning the floor as a test. "You are employed."

He said." Give me your e-mail address and I'll send you the application to fill in, as well as date when you may start."

The man replied "But I don't have a computer, neither an email."
I'm sorry", said the HR manager, "If you don't have an email, that means you do not exist. And who doesn't exist, cannot have the job."

The man left with no hope at all. He didn't know what to do, with only $10 in his pocket. He then decided to go to the supermarket and buy a 10Kg tomato crate.

He then sold the tomatoes in a door to door round. In less than two hours, he succeeded to double his capital. He repeated the Operation three times, and returned home with $60. The man realized that he can survive by this Way, and started to go everyday earlier, and return late Thus, his money doubled or tripled every day. Shortly, he bought a cart, then a truck, then he had his own fleet of delivery vehicles.

5 years later, the man is one of the biggest food retailers in the US . He started to plan his family's future, and decided to have a life insurance.

He called an insurance broker, and chose a protection plan. When the conversation was concluded, the broker asked him his email.

The man replied, "I don't have an email".

The broker answered curiously, "You don't have an email, and yet have succeeded to build an empire. Can you imagine what you could have been if you had an email?!!"

The man thought for a while and replied, "Yes, I'd be an office boy at Microsoft!"


Moral of the story:

M1 - Internet is not the solution to your life.
M2 - If you don't have internet, and work hard, you can be a millionaire.
M3 - If you received this message by email, you are closer to being an office boy, than a millionaire..........

Wednesday, February 14, 2007

Use the Power of Your Wishes for Greater Well-Being

Whether for its joy or sorrow, whatever we wish for another comes true for us in the same moment we make that wish!


Find New Strength in Awakened Attention


When attention is directed, it has the ability to invest an idea with energy and life. Wherever you place your attention, you give life to that seed of thought. You can see this in operation all the time. Has it ever happened to you that you had a thought, and soon discovered that someone else, a friend or co-worker, had a similar idea? It almost seems as though your attending to the thought gave it a life of its own and passed it to another person. We've all had something like this happen: you're stopped at a red light, and you look out your car window at a man passing by. You follow him with your eyes, and the next thing you know he turns around and looks at you! The power of attention almost seems to have a magnetic pull.

This power can be used for good or bad. When we use it for practical work, or for honest self-observation, we use it to our own benefit. However, when this power operates unconsciously to strengthen self-harming ideas, it becomes a barrier to natural strength, happiness, and love. At every moment, we stand on the threshold to a completely different and better life. If we become conscious of the true cause of our unhappiness, we can direct our attention away from its unconscious focus. At that point, something higher can come in to help us use the power of attention for our true good.

But first we must see how wrongly directed attention works against us. Perhaps a thought comes to you about a problem that's been bothering you. The thought takes an inner state and defines it for you by naming its "cause." Once the thought comes, your mind gives it attention. In that moment, you've animated that thought and given it life -- and the life you've given it is your own! Here's an example of how this might come about. A man is walking through his office when his boss walks by and gives him a blank look. The thought pops into the man's mind that his boss is criticizing him or doesn't like him. He focuses attention on the thought, which strengthens it. He's convinced the boss has it in for him. The thought grows in authority for him, tormenting him for the rest of the day and causing him to snap at his family when he gets home. A hitchhiking spirit has been created out of the conjunction of a passing glance and misdirected attention.

Here is the amazing thing. This whole drama has been played out inside of the man, but not only does he not see its true origin, he believes it has been cast upon him by someone else -- his heartless boss! He tries to get rid of the painful feelings by arguing with his boss, either outwardly or in his mind. The more he feels punished by the situation the more he wants to fight with it, thinking that its existence is separate from him, but it's not independent of him. He gave it its existence by unconsciously permitting his attention to be drawn to it. The more he resists it, the more it grows. The more it grows, the more he resists. The situation gets worse, and the worse it gets, the more he's convinced that the whole thing has been caused by something outside of him. Nothing can change until he begins to understand that his attention animated the thought, which he then wrongly fed with his own life. Only by becoming aware of this can he begin to use properly his most powerful weapon: attention.

We must use our awakened attention to catch unnecessary thoughts and withdraw our consent from them.

We've suffered because we've unconsciously consented to painful thoughts. We've animated these thoughts with our own energy, and they have then been able to direct our behavior, leading us to fight, overeat, spend money, drink, and a thousand other self-destructive behaviors. By withdrawing our consent from these thoughts, we no longer animate negative energies. We neither resist them nor try to change them, two approaches that only seem to strengthen the problem. But withdrawing our consent is a method that cannot lose.

At the moment we feel a pain, we must notice where our attention is. We can use the pain to look back into our lives to see what we've been consenting to. This action separates us from the situation so we can see where our attention is. We see that for the past half hour we've been engaged in an imaginary argument with someone who isn't even there! We see that we've been animating painful thoughts. We suffer because we think about things that make us suffer. We get angry because we think about things that make us angry. Now we come to an amazing discovery: if I accidentally gave that negative spirit life, I can also consciously withdraw that life.

Until now, we've unconsciously allowed our attention to be carried by any passing thought, but now we will be attentive to where our attention is. As an exercise, several times each day we can break into our own thoughts and become wide awake to ourselves. For example, you might set yourself the task of trying to become aware of yourself and where your thoughts are every time you pass through a doorway. That evening, as you walk from your kitchen to your living room, you remember yourself as you pass through the door and realize that you're worrying about something you have to do the next day. You realize that there is no reason for you to be thinking about that at the moment, and that your worry has put you in an irritable mood. Your awareness shows you that you are not required to think those thoughts, and the mood they created is not real. You can refocus your attention, and go on to enjoy your evening.

When we drop negative spirits, our precious resources are no longer mobilized to fight an unnecessary war. We are filled with real life and Light, and we face each new experience with enthusiasm and curiosity; for life is whole and good when we are no longer surrounded by enemies that we ourselves created.


-- Guy Finley
Excerpted from
Who Put That Stone In My Shoe?
© 1998-2006 Guy Finley/Life of Learning Foundation

Tuesday, February 13, 2007

How the power of attraction can help you get what you want?

Copyright © 2005 Emmanuel Segui

"Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become" said Jim Rohn, one of the world's leading motivational speaker, philosopher and entrepreneur. Every great achiever knows that certain mental laws exist by which you can turn all your dreams into reality. The Law of Attraction is one of the most important to understand, use and abuse!

Like attracts like.

"For intelligence cleaveth unto intelligence; wisdom receiveth wisdom; truth embraceth truth; virtue loveth virtue; light cleaveth unto light; mercy hath compassion on mercy and claimeth her own; justice continueth its course and claimeth its own." This ancient scripture summarize what the law of attraction is all about. It is attracting to your life whatever you give your attention, focus and energy to, whether wanted or unwanted. The Law of attraction can work for you or against you. It's all up to you. What are your main thoughts directed to: goals, success, achievement, wisdom, truth, love?

Simply ask yourself: "So, what do I want?"

Studies have shown that more than 90% of self-talk is negative. In other words, all day long, you fill your mind, consciously or not, with negative thoughts and unproductive feelings. You therefore get a corresponding life. The law of attraction doesn't know (and doesn't care) if this is a good or bad thought. It attracts whatever you're thinking about. The solution to a more successful life is simply asking yourself: "So, what do I really want?" Take some time to define your ideal lifestyle, in every aspect of your life: family, business, financial freedom... And now that you have defined these goals, use techniques like affirmations or visualization to literally flood your mind with positive, motivating thoughts and feelings.

Does everyone ELSE seems luckier?

A lot of people like the verb "to complain". This is because they don't want to take 100% responsibility for their lives. However, this is the solution. "Everyone seems luckier than me," they say. Luck is a shorter term for "applying the law of attraction into my life daily". You can be as "lucky" as anybody else. Follow some simple steps that every highly successful person will tell you: set goals, dream big dreams, fill your mind with these positive thoughts and emotions and let the Law of Attraction work for you.

What You Think Is What You Get

Your reality will represent what is going on in your mind and subconscious mind. Your attitude will be reflected back to you by the attitude of those close to you and around you on a daily basis. If you are positive and optimistic - you'll have positive and optimistic people around you.

Re-visit from time to time the definition: "the Law of Attraction is attracting to your life whatever you give your attention, focus and energy to, whether wanted or unwanted." It works all the time, everywhere, it's completely up to you to activate it. Set goals, long-term goals and literally flood your mind with positive, motivating thoughts and feelings. This is how you become excellent, more prosperous and a successful entrepreneur.


see also:
- Law of Attraction Info
- The Law of Attraction: A Comprehensive Guide
- The Secret (The Secret Trailer in YouTube)

Watch the 1st 20 minutes of The Secret DVD-Movie:


- The Secret featured on The Oprah Winfrey Show on February 8th, 2007
- The Oprah Winfrey Primetime Show - Discovering The Secret
- The Secret on Larry King (CNN) Live (featured on November 02 and 16, 2006)
- "Beyond the Power of Positive Thinking" on Larry King Live (alternate site by James Arthur Ray)
- CNN Larry's King interview with Oprah Winfrey on Law of Attraction of The Secret
- Ezine Articles on Law of Attraction
- Emmanuel Segui's articles in EzineArticles.com
- More articles by Emmanuel Segui
- Books on Power of Attraction and Positive Energy - PsiTek's free Metaphysical Books
- 'Secret' attracts plenty of attention reported by USA Today
- The Secret Book (also shown in Oprah's Books) [The Secret Book in Chinese]
- The Secret Movie DVD
- What Is The Secret? ::: The Official Secret Blog
- The Secret Gratitude Book by Rhonda Byrne
- Abraham—The Secret Behind "The Secret"?
- Law of Attraction Book
- The Science of Getting Rich


What Is The Secret

Monday, February 12, 2007

Building Self-Confidence: How to Initiate a Virtuous Cycle

By Jeff Griswold

It's no secret that self-confidence is very important to achieving success in any area of life. The thing about self-confidence is that it is very sensitive to our personal experience and is inherently instable. In other words, your self-confidence has a snowball affect. And it can snowball in a positive direction or it can snowball in a negative direction. Here's how it works:

How the Negative Snowball works:

1. If you start out with low self-confidence (see below to learn more about how this happens), you're less likely to take on challenges or try new things.
2. On the rare occasion that you try to accomplish something, your low self-confidence can sabotage your efforts and you're much less likely to succeed.
3. Your lack of accomplishment and your failures reinforce your low self-confidence.
4. Then it's back to step 1 and the cycle repeats; limiting your ability to live a better life.

How the Positive Snowball works:

1. If you have self-confidence, you're more likely to attempt just about anything, so you try more things.
2. And when you attempt something with confidence in your abilities, you're very likely to succeed.
3. As a result, your success increases your self-confidence.
4. Return to step 1 and repeat, and repeat, and repeat until you reach your full potential!

Wearing a Groove in Your Brain
At the risk of over-simplifying a phenomenally complex process, what's happening in your brain is that these snowball cycles wear a groove through the vast array of neurons and synapses. So, neurologically you are physically carving a path of least resistance through your brain. With enough reinforcement, you develop a reflex to certain kinds of stimuli.

For example, if a smoker tries to quit smoking and fails and he allows a negative snowball cycle to take place he'll lose confidence in his ability to quit. And he'll eventually develop a negative reflex to the idea of quitting. Once that happens, if anyone suggests that he quit or someone offers a new way to try to quit, his brain will automatically reject the possibility. In his brain, the mere suggestion of quitting will trigger an impulse that will follow that well-worn path of least resistance; the path that equates trying to quit with failure.

But this works the other way, too. A positive snowball cycle will wear a groove that creates a positive reflex. We ve all known people like this. They're the ones who are eager to try anything and seem to succeed at everything. And in the rare occasions when they fail, they are undeterred. The positive reflex they ve created in their brain allows them to learn from their mistakes and equate failure with I'll do even better next time!

How Does the Low Self-Confidence Cycle Start?
Unfortunately, virtually everyone has been programmed from childhood with negatives that make us believe we can't do things that we are innately capable of doing. A lot of it is self-imposed programming. If we fail to do something perfectly the first time we try it, it is only human nature to begin to believe that we can't do it.

We also receive negative programming from others that can greatly impact our self-confidence. We are told repeatedly as a child "You can't do this or "You'll never be able to do that. If we accept this programming which, again, is only human nature our self-confidence is weakened accordingly.

Take a moment now to think back on your own life. Think about the things that you ve been led to believe you cannot attain but that you know intellectually are entirely possible. It could be anything; a certain level of income; academic achievement; great athletic performance; success at love, etc. If you're like most people, it won t take long to come up with a sizable list.

Fortunately, when some people are told they can't do something, they refuse to accept that programming and go on to prove that they indeed can. For example:

- Beethoven's teacher said he was hopeless as a composer.
- Thomas Edison's teachers said he was too stupid to learn anything
- Leo Tolstoy, the author of War & Peace, was told he couldn't learn
- Albert Einstein did not speak until he was 4, didn't read until he was 7. His teacher called him mentally slow.
- One of the early teachers of the great opera singer Enrico Caruso said he had no voice at all and could not sing.

There are many other examples, but the point is that each and every one of us has given up on at least one thing because we lacked the confidence to try! And the world has undoubtedly been robbed of the great contributions of countless gifted people because of such negativity.

How to Build Your Self-Confidence
The good news is that a negative self-confidence cycle is completely reversible! You can learn how to eliminate existing negative thought reflexes and replace them with positive thought reflexes. By mastering a few easy techniques you'll be able to recognize and reject negative programming before you allow it to begin to erode your confidence.

There are dozens of techniques to help you build your self-confidence and self-esteem. These include:

- Positive Affirmations
- Guided Visualization
- Mental Imagery
- Goal-Oriented Meditation
- Breathing Techniques
- Subliminal Programming
- Whole-Brain Learning

Here's one simple technique you can start using today that will help you initiate a virtuous cycle of improved self-confidence...

Using Positive Affirmations to Build Self-Confidence Positive
Affirmations are carefully-worded positive statements that you repeat to yourself and are designed to establish new thinking patterns in your mind. Using affirmations is a very effective way to build self-confidence. It seems simple and initially it can actually be a little uncomfortable but remember, what you're trying to do is to wear a new groove in your brain. You're trying to create a new path of least resistance and establish a positive reflex in your mind. And the best way to create a new reflex is through repetition of positive thoughts, images and feelings.

Below, I've included a small handful of powerful affirmations for you to begin using today. The way to use affirmations is to repeat the statements to yourself (out loud or silently). When you repeat an affirmation, feel it, believe it, and know it! Put some positive emotion into it. Emotion-backed programming is the most powerful and long lasting. Allow yourself to experience the feelings of joy, satisfaction, power and self-confidence as you do each affirmation. Make each one a true part of your reality.

Use your favorite affirmations routinely throughout the day, and really feel them. When you do you will eventually make a quantum leap. You will suddenly be far beyond the doubts that accompany wishing, hoping, daydreaming, and even believing. You will enter the zone of knowing.

When you enter the zone of knowing, supreme self-confidence is automatically there. All doubt is gone. You know you can do it. You know it will happen, just as surely as if it had already happened. And quite likely at some dimension it has happened for you! When you enter the zone of knowing, your self-confidence is unshakable and your untapped potential is released. You feel invincible!

Another great way to use affirmations is to say them while looking in a mirror. Say them with feeling and soon you'll become aware of how powerful your eyes are. It's said that the eyes are the windows of the soul. Ralph Waldo Emerson wrote that each of us carries in our eyes the exact indication of our rank. We send messages with our eyes that show how we think of ourselves and how self-confident we are. And that influences how others respond to us. The more our eyes bespeak self-confidence and self-esteem, the more other people are likely to hold us in high esteem. Some people have developed a penetrating gaze that makes it seem as if they can look into your very soul. As you practice your affirmations in the mirror, you'll see this in your own eyes and soon others will feel the confidence that you project.

Sample Affirmations:

- I now free myself from false limits
- I choose to be self-confident
- I now feel self-confident
- I radiate self-confidence
- I reject negativity at all levels of consciousness
- I love turning negatives into positives
- The more positive I am, the more confident I am
- I now think as a positive person
- I breath as a positive person
- I feel positive and confident
- I am intelligent
- I am capable
- I speak with self-confidence
- My body language projects self-confidence
- People sense my self-confidence, which gives them confidence in me
- I am positive and confident
- I'm becoming aware of my true potential
- I enjoy being positive
- Being positive builds my self-confidence
- I feel positive and confident
- I am positive and confident

Start Today
There are many other powerful techniques that you can use to improve your self-confidence and build your self-esteem. But this will get you started in the right direction. The most important thing to remember is that repetition and positive emotions are critical to changing the way you think. While it's possible to do this on your own, most people need a defined program for the direction and support they need to commit to a change.

Many people find that listening to audio programs is the best way to provide the consistency that's needed to develop new, healthy, positive thought habits. In addition to Positive Affirmations, the best audio programs will incorporate a variety of techniques including guided visualizations, mental imagery, goal-oriented meditation, subliminal programming, whole-brain learning, and more.

So, employ whatever resources you need to commit to improving your self-confidence. Whether it's an audio program or help from your friends, family or therapist your self-confidence is too important to allow it to wither away. Be confident that you can improve your confidence and it will change your life.


Copyright © 2005 Jeff Griswold, Effective Learning Systems, Inc.
Jeff Griswold is the President of
Effective Learning Systems, Inc., the leading creator of audio CDs and tapes for helping you build self-esteem and self-confidence. With over 100 titles available, their programs are the bestselling self-improvement audio programs in national bookstores - including Barnes & Noble and Borders - and have been for over 20 years. Jeff can be reached by email or at 952-943-1660. Get your free copy of a 24-page report showing you how you can harness the unlimited power within yourself to achieve your full potential: "The Greatest Thing You'll Ever Learn".


see also:
Metamorphosis

Sunday, February 11, 2007

Quote from Napoleon Hill

Napoleon Hill (1883 - 1970) American writer
See also: Success Through a Positive Mental Attitude (1960) Co-authored with W. Clement Stone

Knowledge has no value except that which can be gained by its application

A goal is a dream with a deadline.

Education comes from within; you get it by struggle and effort and thought.

All achievements, all earned riches, have their beginning in an idea.

Any idea, plan, or purpose may be placed in the mind through repetition of thought.

Do not wait; the time will never be "just right." Start where you stand, and work with whatever tools you may have at your command, and better tools will be found as you go along.

Action is the real measure of intelligence.

Cherish your visions and your dreams as they are the children of your soul, the blueprints of your ultimate achievements.

Big pay and little responsibility are circumstances seldom found together.

Desire is the starting point of all achievement, not a hope, not a wish, but a keen pulsating desire which transcends everything.

Effort only fully releases its reward after a person refuses to quit.

Great achievement is usually born of great sacrifice, and is never the result of selfishness.

Hold a picture of yourself long and steadily enough in your mind's eye, and you will be drawn toward it.

Every person who wins in any undertaking must be willing to cut all sources of retreat. Only by doing so can one be sure of maintaining that state of mind known as a burning desire to win - essential to success.

Ideas are the beginning points of all fortunes.

If you cannot do great things, do small things in a great way.

If you do not conquer self, you will be conquered by self.

Just as our eyes need light in order to see, our minds need ideas in order to conceive.

It has always been my belief that a man should do his best, regardless of how much he receives for his services, or the number of people he may be serving or the class of people served.

Man, alone, has the power to transform his thoughts into physical reality; man, alone, can dream and make his dreams come true.

Money without brains is always dangerous.

More gold has been mined from the thoughts of men than has been taken from the earth.

Persistence is to the character of man as carbon is to steel.

One must marry one's feelings to one's beliefs and ideas. That is probably the only way to achieve a measure of harmony in one's life.

No man is ever whipped until he quits in his own mind.

No man can succeed in a line of endeavor which he does not like.

Procrastination is the bad habit of putting off until the day after tomorrow what should have been done the day before yesterday.

Self-disciplined begins with the mastery of your thoughts. If you don't control what you think, you can't control what you do. Simply, self-discipline enables you to think first and act afterward.

Strength and growth come only through continuous effort and struggle.

Success in its highest and noblest form calls for peace of mind and enjoyment and happiness which come only to the man who has found the work that he likes best.

The battle is all over except the "shouting" when one knows what is wanted and has made up his mind to get it, whatever the price may be.

The ladder of success is never crowded at the top.

The majority of men meet with failure because of their lack of persistence in creating new plans to take the place of those which fail.

The world has the habit of making room for the man whose actions show that he knows where he is going.

Think and grow rich.

Through some strange and powerful principle of "mental chemistry" which she has never divulged, nature wraps up in the impulse of strong desire, "that something" which recognizes no such word as "impossible," and accepts no such reality as failure.

Understand this law and you will then know, beyond room for the slightest doubt, that you are constantly punishing yourself for every wrong you commit and rewarding yourself for every act of constructive conduct in which you indulge.

There are no limitations to the mind except those we acknowledge.

War grows out of the desire of the individual to gain advantage at the expense of his fellow man.

When your desires are strong enough you will appear to possess superhuman powers to achieve.

You give before you get.

You must get involved to have an impact. No one is impressed with the won-lost record of the referee.

Your big opportunity may be right where you are now.

Who said it could not be done? And tell me what great victories does he have to his credit which qualifies him to judge what can and can't be accomplished.

One of the main weaknesses of mankind is the average man's familiarity with the word 'impossible.'

Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve.

Saturday, February 10, 2007

How to Develop Empowering Beliefs and Values

[email from Adam Khoo sent on 19-Dec-2006 00:40]

Our beliefs act as the 'on' and 'off' switch to our brain and our inner resources. Without the right beliefs in place, none of the other steps in the success formula matter.

Our beliefs determine what we want and what we do when we don't get what we want. If you have limiting beliefs like, 'It's too difficult', 'I'm too young', 'it's not possible', 'I am not a good speaker', it is highly unlikely that you will set inspiring goals in the first place.

If you don't have empowering beliefs, you will not set goals for yourself. And nobody can set goals for you either.

Similarly, limiting beliefs about yourself and the situation will make you 'give up' rather than change your strategy and take action until you succeed.

If you believe that you don't have the capability or that 'it is too difficult', then you are more likely to quit than change your strategy and take action until you succeed.

So an empowering set of beliefs is truly one of the keys you need to punch in, to set the rest of the formula in motion.

The second key that drives the success are our values or what we hold dear to us, and live by. Values are like emotional hot buttons that drive our behavior. They are what we value as important in our lives.

All of us regard values like 'success', 'freedom', 'security', 'love' and 'happiness' very differently. And it is the way we internally rank these values that determine the kinds of choices we make, and the actions we take.

Some people are driven towards reaching their goals because of their need to feel secure. Others may be driven by a different value, like freedom. "I want to earn enough to be free" (free from want, free to walk out of a boring job) is an often-heard goal.

The important thing is that whatever our values are, they must be aligned with our goals. The main reason why most people never feel driven towards their goals is because their values are not aligned, their values may even be in conflict with their goals.

I once had a student (a young mother) who could never feel consistently motivated towards her goals of achieving her sales targets. It was later that it dawned on her that her goals and values were in direct conflict. She valued 'family' but as a professional, she also valued 'success'.

This internal conflict drained a lot of her energy, and held her back. She wanted to achieve her career goals but she felt guilty whenever the pursuit of her goal prevented her from spending time with her family.

Successful have empowering beliefs that they can achieve what they set out to do and they ensure they align their values with their goals.

If you want to become successful, develop empowering beliefs and align your values because if you don't, there is almost no chance that success will knock on your door.


To Your Success,

Adam Khoo
www.SecretsOfSelf-MadeMillionaires.com

Friday, February 09, 2007

Observations ... so true ??

1. Tests have show that women rate 3% higher in general intelligence than men, though their brain size is smaller.

2. Women are walking radar detectors, that is why men have difficulty lying to women. Their brains have the ability to integrate and decipher verbal, visual and other signals of body language. Hence, women will always be safe when faking an orgasm.

3. Women wants lots of sex with the man she loves. Men just want lots of sex.

4. When men flirt, they will lower their pitch of voice. Women will raise theirs.

5. Women talk and think aloud while men do them silently. As a result, men think women talk too much and are nags.

6. Women talk about their problems as a way of relieving stress. She wants to be heard, not fixed by being offered advice and solutions.

7. Speech and words are not a specific brain skill for men. They find it hard to express themselves. That's why they often choose greeting cards with plenty of words inside. That way, there's less space for them to write.

8. Women leave men, not because they are unhappy with what he can provide, but because they are emotionally unfulfilled.

9. Women uses an average of 20,000 communication words, sounds, andgestures a day. Men only use about 7,000.

10. So if a woman is talking to you a lot, she likes you. But if she'snot talking, you're in trouble.

11. Men are more thick-skin than women. Literally. Which explains why women have more wrinkles than men. Boys loses their sensitivity touch by the time they reach puberty. So where does all thatsensitivity go? It all goes to just one area.

12. If a woman is unhappy in her relationship, she can't concentrate on her work. If a man is unhappy at work, he can't focus on his relationship.

13. Men can only do one thing at a time. When they stop their car to read a street directory, they have to turn down the radio. Women's brain are configured for multi-tasking performance. They can talk onthe phone, watch the TV and cook at the same time.

14. Most men get a brain haemorrhage after 20 minutes of clothes shopping.

15. When it comes to sex, women need a reason; men need a place.

16. 15% to 20% of men have feminised brains. About 10% of women have masculinised brains. So there are more gays than lesbians in the world.

17. Most women prefer sex with the lights off - they can't bear to see a man enjoying himself. Men likes the lights on - so they can get the woman's name right.

Thursday, February 08, 2007

Good Inspirational Quotes

Imagine life as a game in which you are juggling five balls in the air. You name them: work, family, health, friends, and spirit, and you're keeping all of them in the air.

You will soon understand that work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back.

But the other four balls -- family, health, friends, and spirit are made of glass. If you drop one of these, they will be irrevocably scuffed, marked, nicked, damaged, or even shattered. They will never be the same. You must understand that and strive for balance in your life.

How?

Don't undermine your worth by comparing yourself with others. It is because we are different that each of us is special.

Don't set your goals by what other people deem important. Only you know what is best for you.
Don't take for granted the things closest to your heart. Cling tothem as you would your life, for without them, life is meaningless.

Don't let life slip through your fingers by living in the past or for the future. By living your life one day at a time, you live ALL thedays of your life.

Don't give up when you still have something to give. Nothing isreally over until the moment you stop trying.

Don't be afraid to admit that you are less than perfect. It is thisfragile thread that binds us together.

Don't be afraid to encounter risks. It is by taking chances that welearn to be brave.

Don't shut love out of your life by saying it's impossible to find.

The quickest way to receive love is to give; the fastest way to lose love is to hold it too tightly; and the best way to keep love is to give it wings.

Don't run through life so fast that you forget not only where you've been, but also where you are going.

Don't forget that a person's greatest emotional need is to feel appreciated.

Don't use time or words carelessly. Neither can be retrieved.

Life is not a race, but a journey to be savored each step of the way.

Yesterday is History, Tomorrow is a Mystery, and Today is a gift: that's why we call it Present


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" Time is too slow for those who wait,
Too swift for those who fear,
Too long for those who grief,
Too short for those who rejoice,
But for those who love
- Time is Eternity. "
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Wednesday, February 07, 2007

Meaninful!

This is meaningful do take time to read it...

As long as we have memories, yesterday remains; as long as we have hope, tomorrow awaits. As long as we have friendship, each day is never a waste.

To love is like playing the piano. First, you must learn to play by the rules. Then, you must forget the rules and play from your heart.

There are some things that we never want to let go of... people we never want to leave behind, but keep in mind that letting go isn't the end of the world. It's the beginning of new life.

Sometimes, it is good to be "alone"... but that doesn't make us lonely. It is not a matter of being present "with" someone, it is a matter of being present "to" someone.

The greatest regrets in our lives are the risks we did not take. If you think something will make you happy, go for it. Remember that you pass thisway only once!

Heartbreaks will last as long as you want and cut deep as you allow them to go; the challenge is not how to survive heartbreaksbut to learn from them.

True love doesn't have a happy ending. That's because true love doesn't havean ending.

Many people will walk in and out of your life, but only true friends willleave footprints in your heart.

A heart truly in love never loses hope but always believes in the promise of love, no matter how long the time and how far the distance.

We are never given dreams without also being given the power to make them come true.

A casual friend will say, "Hi, hello!" A close friend adds, "How are you doing?" But a true friend further asks, "What can I do to help?"

Lots of people will want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limobreaks down.

Love has its own time, season and own reasons! You can't ask it to stay, you can only embrace it as it comes and be glad that for a moment in your lifeit was yours!

We have no right to ask when sorrow comes, "Why did this happen to me?" unless we ask the same question for every moment of happiness that comes ourway.

The recipe of friendship: 1 cup of sharing, 2 cups of caring, 1 cup of forgiveness and hugs of tenderness. Mix all these together... to make friends forever.

Just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to doesn't meanthey don't love you with all they have.

To discover new oceans, you should lose sight of the shore.

Happiness is like perfume, you can't pour on others without getting a few drops on yourself.

Friends are like stars. You can't always see them, but you know they are there.

Have great hopes and dare to go all out for them. Have great dreams and dare to live them. Have tremendous expectations and believe in them.

As I look back on my past, I remember the tears I cried, the jokes I laughed at, the things I missed and lost, but there's one thing I'll never regret:
it's the day you became my friend.

Tuesday, February 06, 2007

Chicken Soup for the Soul

dearest parents.. some food for thot! It is a gem.

If I Had My Child to Raise Over Again

If I had my child to raise all over again, I'd finger-paint more, and point the fingers less.

I would do less correcting and more connecting.

I'd take my eyes off my watch, and watch with my eyes.

I would care to know less and know to care more.

I'd take more hikes and fly more kites.

I'd stop playing serious, and seriously play.

I would run through more fields and gaze at more stars.

I'd do more hugging and less tugging.

I'd build self-esteem first, and the house later.

I would be firm less often, and affirm much more.

I'd teach less about the love of power,

And more about the power of love.

By Diane Loomans
from Condensed Chicken Soup for the Soul
Copyright 1996 by Jack Canfield, Mark Victor Hansen & Patty Hansen

Monday, February 05, 2007

The 24 Interludes of Life

When we start thinking about life we just forget some lessons and some we don't remember sooner. Here read these and I am sure you will like them all.
Have a nice time.... :

1.
Don't go for looks, they can deceive;
Don't go for wealth even that fades away.
Go for someone who makes you smile.

2.
There are moments in life when you really miss someone that you want to pick them from your dreams and hug them.
Hope you dream of that someone.

3.
Dream what you want to dream;
Go where you want to go;
Be what you want to be
because you have only one life
and one chance to do all the things you want in life.

4.
May you have .....
enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human, enough hope to make you happy and enough money to buy gifts!!

5.
When one door of happiness closes, another opens but often welook so long at the closed door that we don't see the one which has been opened for us.

6.
The best kind of friend is the one
you could sit on a porch,
swing with, never saying a word, and
then walk away feeling
like that was the best
conversation you've had.

7.
It's true that we don't know what we've got until we lose it, but it's also true that we don't know what we've been missing until it arrives.

8.
Always put yourself in other's shoes. if you feel that it hurts you, it probably does hurt the person, too.

9.
A careless word may kindle strife;
A cruel word may wreck a life;
A timely word may level stress;
A loving word may heal and bless.

10.
The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves, and not to twist them with our own image otherwise, we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them.

11.
The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best ofeverything; they just make the most of everything that comes along theirway.

12.
Maybe God wants us to meet a few wrong people before meeting the right one so that when we finally meet the right person, we should know how to be grateful for that gift.

13.
It takes a minute to have a crush on someone, an hour to like someone and a day to love someone - but it takes a lifetime to forget someone.

14.
Happiness lies for those who cry, those who hurt, those who have searched and those who have tried.
For only they can appreciate the importance of people who have touched their lives.

15.
Love is when you take away the feeling, the passion, the romance and you find out you still care for that person.

16.
A sad thing about life is that when you meet someone who means a lot to you only to find out in the end that it was never bound to be and you just have to let go.

17.
Love starts with a smile,
develops with a kiss and
ends with a tear.

18.
Love comes to those who still hope even though they've been disappointed, to those who still believe, even though they've been betrayed, need to love those who still love, even though they've been hurt before.

19.
It hurts to love someone and
not be loved in return,
but what is most painful is to
love someone and never finds
the courage to let the person
know how you feel.

20.
The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past, you can't go on well in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.

21.
Never say goodbye when
you still want to try,
never give up when you still feel
you can take it,
never say you don't love that
person anymore when you can't let go.

22.
Giving someone all your love
is never an assurance that they'll
love you back!
Don't expect love in return,
just wait for it to grow in their hearts but if it doesn't,
be content, it grew in yours.

23.
There are things you love to hear
but you would never hear it from
the person whom you would like
to hear it from, but don't be deaf
to hear it from the person
who says it with his heart.

24.
When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling, live your life to the fullest so that when you die, you're smiling
and everyone around you is crying.

Sunday, February 04, 2007

Meaningful advice about "LOVE"

Meaningful advice.

Do take some time to read them, even if you have already read it before, read again to find some new meaning within the words...

1. I love you not because of who you are, but because of who I am when I am with you.

2. No man is worth your tears, and the one who is won't make you cry.

3. Just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to, doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have.

4. They say love hides behind every corner, then I must be walking in circles.

5. A true friend is someone who reaches for your hand and touches your heart.

6. The worst way to miss someone is to be sitting right beside them, knowing you can't have them.

7. Never frown, even when your are sad, because you never know who is falling in love with your smile.

8. To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world.

9. Don't waste your time on a someone, who isn't willing to waste their time on you.

10. Maybe God wants us to meet a few wrong people before meeting the right one, so that when we finally meet the person, we will know how to be grateful.

11. Don't cry because it is over, smile because it happened.

12. There's always going to be people that hurt you, so what you have to do is keep on trusting and just be more careful about who you trust next time around.

13. Make yourself a better person and know who you are before you try, and know someone else and expect them to know you.

14. Don't try so hard; the best things come when you least expect them to.


"People are like stained glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in, their true beauty is revealed only if there is a light from within"

*~*~*Mistakes that don't kill you can only make you stronger*~*~*