Blessing All Beings with Love & Appreciation

What is recession?

2009-02-23T09:17:00.003+08:00

This is an interesting story, about a man who once upon a time was selling Hotdogs by the roadside. He was illiterate, so he never read newspapers. He was hard of hearing, so he never listened to the radio. His eyes were weak, so he never watched television. But enthusiastically, he sold lots of hotdogs.

He was smart enough to offer some attractive schemes to increase his sales. His sales and profit went up. He ordered more a more raw material and buns and sold more. He recruited more supporting staff to serve more customers. He started offering home deliveries. Eventually he got himself a bigger and better stove. As his business was growing, the son, who had recently graduated from college, joined his father.

Then something strange happened.......

The son asked, "Dad, aren't you aware of the great recession that is coming our way?"

The father replied, "No, but tell me about it."

The son said, "The international situation is terrible. The domestic situation is even worse. We should be prepared for the coming bad times."

The man thought that since his son had been to college, read the papers, listened to the radio and watched TV. He ought to know and his advice should not be taken lightly. So the next day onwards, the father cut down the his raw material order and buns, took down the colorful signboard, removed all the special schemes he was offering to the customers and was no longer as enthusiastic. He reduced his staff
strength by giving layoffs. Very soon, fewer and fewer people bothered to stop at his Hotdog stand. And his sales started coming down rapidly and so did the profit.

The father said to his son, "Son, you were right".
"We are in the middle of a recession and crisis. I am glad you warned me ahead of time."

Moral of the Story: It's all in OUR MIND! and we actually FUEL this recession much more than whatever exists. Collectively, we can overcome this self imposed recession.

Qualities of Smart human beings

2008-10-26T08:26:00.002+08:00

In today's competitive world, it pays to be smart. No matter how smart you are, I am sure there is something you could "get smarter" about. Below are some qualities of smart people. As you read the list, ask yourself: Am I as smart as I could be in this area? How could I get smarter?

1. Make Decisions Intuitively
Smart people listen to and follow their intuition. They know how intuitions and insights come to them and are tuned-in internally to make wise decisions.

2. Are Self-Aware
Smart people are aware of who they are— strengths, weaknesses, personality, values, etc. As Confucius once said, "He who knows others is wise, he who knows himself is enlightened, " they know that the most important (and interesting) thing to know about is "self."

3. Use Active Reflection
Smart people reflect on and learn from past experiences, finding out what works and what doesn't, and then adjusts their course of action as needed. They think about things before jumping in, and also take the time after-the-fact to actively reflect to fully understand what happened or didn't happen.

4. Think Out-of-Box
Smart people can easily entertain new ideas, thoughts, and ways of doing things. They crave progressive and forward thinking information, concepts, and people. They often come up with new and radical ideas on a regular basis.

5. Have an Open-Mind
Smart people are open to different perspectives and see potential where most people don't. They would agree with what the quote, "A mind is like a parachute, it only functions when it is open." They are comfortable with paradoxes and can relate to many sides of an issue or opinion.

6. Are Responsive
Smart people recognize and respond quickly to opportunities and people. They act and react fast, and take care of what needs to be taken care-of, well ahead of schedule.

7. Are Resourceful
Smart people don't have to know it all, but they do know where to go to get whatever information, resources, training, education that they need. They are well-networked and have people to call on for resource referrals.

8. Question Authority
Smart people think for themselves. They do not blindly believe things so-called "experts" say, in fact, they ask deep questions to discover their own truth.

9. Upgrade Their Brain
Smart people stay smart because they are committed to being a lifelong learner. They continuously learn new things, and stay current with their skills, attitudes, and beliefs.

10. Have a Sense of Humor
Smart people do not take themselves or life too seriously. They recognize the importance of finding the fun in the irony and the comedy of everyday life.

11. Take Risks
Smart people are willing to try out new things, knowing that if it doesn't work out as intended; failure is often cleverly disguised as a learning opportunity. They "swing out there" often, and it usually pays off.

12. Trust Themselves
Smart people believe and trust themselves first and foremost. They don't have to check with others to make decisions, they instinctively know what is right for them and they go for it!

13. Write and List Things on Paper
Smart people have a well-developed life strategy that includes a written life vision/mission, purpose, and goals statement. They also write lists—one for "have to" and one for "want to."

14. Are Productive
Smart people get things done, through whatever organizational/ time management system that works for them. They make the most of each day and take action on important life tasks each and everyday.

15. Use Discernment
Smart people are able to discern (see clearly) other's reasons and motives, so they selectively choose who and what to align themselves with. They surround themselves with only the highest quality people, programs, and places.

16. Read, Read, Read
Smart people tap into the collective brain power of others by reading books, magazines, articles—anything that is helpful for their own development. They are also able to filter out the information that fits for them and let the rest go.

17. Value Learning
Smart people value the process of learning for learning's sake. They do not just learn for a specific end—to get a certificate, degree, title, etc.
They learn because it is intrinsically rewarding for them.

18. Teach Others
Smart people are the teachers of the world, who share their knowledge with other people. They put themselves out there so the rest of us can benefit, and in exchange, their own learning grows and develops because they are actively talking about, researching, and understanding their subject.

19. Reinvent Themselves
Smart people do not like to stay the same, they love to grow and develop. They often play with their image, brand, company name, and expand or change it entirely. To stay ahead of the game, they often reinvent themselves time and time again.

20. Are Students of Life
Smart people not only know about specific subjects and topics, but also about what it means to be a human being at this time in our evolution. They are insatiably curious and want to know more about becoming bigger and brighter, as a result they naturally evolve.

"To gain knowledge, add things everyday. To gain wisdom, remove things everyday."

This is so true; our brain is like a computer and in order for it to function at a higher level, we must always be adding, while simultaneously taking away information that no longer serves us. Think about it, what do you want to remove from your database? And, what new software program will you replace it with?

Self-control is the key to success

2007-06-28T00:34:00.000+08:00

Marshmallows and Public Policy
by David Brooks

The self-control test shows the ability to delay gratification correlates with socioeconomic status and parenting styles.

AROUND 1970, psychologist Walter Mischel launched a classic experiment. He left a succession of 4-year-olds in a room with a bell and a marshmallow. If they rang the bell, he would come back and they could eat the marshmallow. If, however, they didn't ring the bell and waited for him to come back on his own, they could then have two marshmallows.

In videos of the experiment, you can see the children squirming, kicking, hiding their eyes -- desperately trying to exercise self-control so they can wait and get two marshmallows. Their performance varied widely. Some broke down and rang the bell within a minute. Others lasted 15 minutes.

The children who waited longer went on to get higher SAT scores. They got into better colleges and had, on average, better adult outcomes. The children who rang the bell quickest were more likely to become bullies. They received worse teacher and parental evaluations 10 years later and were more likely to have drug problems at age 32.

The Mischel experiments are worth noting because people in the policy world spend a lot of time thinking about how to improve education, how to reduce poverty, how to make the most of the nation's human capital. But when policymakers address these problems, they come up with structural remedies: reduce class sizes, create more charter schools, increase teacher pay, mandate universal day care and try vouchers.

The results of these structural reforms are almost always disappointingly modest. Yet policymakers rarely ever probe deeper into problems and ask the core questions, such as how do we get people to master the sort of self-control that leads to success? To ask that question is to leave the policymakers' comfort zone -- which is the world of inputs and outputs, appropriations and bureaucratic reform -- and to enter the murky world of psychology and human nature.

Yet the Mischel experiments, along with everyday experience, tell us that self-control is essential. Young people who can delay gratification can sit through sometimes boring classes to get a degree. They can perform rote tasks in order to, say, master a language. They can avoid drugs and alcohol. For people without self-control skills, however, school is a series of failed ordeals. No wonder they drop out. Life is a parade of foolish decisions: teenage pregnancy, drug use, gambling, truancy and crime.

If you're a policymaker and you are not talking about core psychological traits such as delayed gratification skills, then you're just dancing around with proxy issues. The research we do have on delayed gratification tells us that differences in self-control skills are deeply rooted but also malleable. Differences in the ability to focus attention and exercise control emerge very early, perhaps as soon as nine months. But there is no consensus on how much of the ability to exercise self-control is hereditary and how much is environmental.

The ability to delay gratification, like most skills, correlates with socioeconomic status and parenting styles. Children from poorer homes do much worse on delayed gratification tests than children from middle-class homes. That's probably because children from poorer homes are more likely to have their lives disrupted by marital breakdown, violence, moving, etc. They think in the short term because there is no predictable long term.

The good news is that while differences in the ability to delay gratification emerge early and persist, that ability can be improved with conscious effort. Moral lectures don't work. Sheer willpower doesn't seem to work either. The children who resisted eating the marshmallow didn't stare directly at it and exercise iron discipline. On the contrary, they were able to resist their appetites because they were able to think about other things.

What works, says Jonathan Haidt, the author of "The Happiness Hypothesis," is creating stable, predictable environments for children, in which good behavior pays off -- and practice. Young people who are given a series of tests that demand self-control get better at it over time.

This pattern would be too obvious to mention if it weren't so largely ignored by educators and policymakers. Somehow we've entered a world in which we obsess over structural reforms and standardized tests, but skirt around the moral and psychological traits that are at the heart of actual success. Mischel tried to interest New York schools in programs based on his research. Needless to say, he found almost no takers.

This article appeared on page B - 7 of the San Francisco Chronicle, The New York Times, on Tuesday, May 7, 2006

Why wedding ring should put on the forth finger

2007-06-19T20:55:00.001+08:00

Why wedding ring should put on the forth finger?
为什么婚戒要带在无名指上?

Just follow the steps mentioned below to realise how god makes this a miracle
请照着步骤做，你会发现上天造人的奥妙

1. Firstly, show your palm, centre finger bend and put together back to back.
首先大家伸出两手，将中指向下弯曲，对靠在一起，就是中指的背跟背靠在一起。

2. Secondly, the rest 4 fingers tips to tips.
然后将其他的4个手指分别指尖对碰。

3. Games begin, follow the following arrangement, 5 fingers but only 1 pair can split.
在开始游戏的正题之前，请确保以下过程中，5个手指只允许一对手指分开。

Here you go...
下面开始游戏的正题。

4. Try to open your thumb, the thumb represent parents, it can be open cause all human does go thru sick and dead. Which is our parents will leave us one day.
请张开你们那对大母指，大母指代表我们的父母，能够张开，每个人都会有生老病死，父母也会有一天离我们而去。

5. Please close up your thumb, then open your second finger, the finger represent brothers and sisters, they do have their own family which is too they will leave us too.
请大家合上大母指，再张开食指，食指代表兄弟姐妹，他们也都会有自己的家世，也会离开我们。

6. Now close up your second finger, open up your litter finer, this represent your children. Sooner or later they too will leave us for they got they own living to live.
请大家合上食指，再张开小母指，小母指代表子女，子女长大后，迟早有一天，会有自己的家庭生活，也会离开我们。

7. Nevertheless, close up your litter finer, try to open your further finger which we put our wedding ring, you will be surprise to find that it cannot be open at all. Because it represent husband and wife, this whole life you will be attach to each other.
那么，请大家合上小母指，再试着张开无名指。这个时候，大家会惊奇的发现无名指怎么也张不开，因为无名指代表夫妻，是一辈子不分离的。

Real love will stick together ever and forever
真正的爱，粘在一起后，是永生永世都分不开的。

[Click here to watch Video Clip]

Here goes the same for physiognomy:
在命相学上也是这样:

Thumb represent parents (大姆指代表父母)
Second finger represent brothers & sisters (食指代表兄弟)
Centre finger represent own self (中指代表自己)
Fourth finger represent your partner (无名指代表配偶)
Last finger represent your children (小指代表子女)

The Power of Now

2007-05-12T08:15:00.000+08:00

Eckhart Tolle's non-fiction bestseller, The Power of Now, describes his experience of enlightenment at the age of 29 after suffering long periods of depression, dissolving his old identity and radically changing the course of his life. This book emphasizes the importance of being aware of the present moment as a way of not being lost in thought. In Tolle's view, the present is the gateway to a heightened sense of peace and aliveness. "Being in the now" also brings about an awareness that is beyond the mind. This awareness helps in transcending "the pain-body" that is created by the identification of the mind and ego with the body. His later book, A New Earth further explores the structure of the human ego and how this acts to distract people from their present experience of the world. His other works include Stillness Speaks, a book that modernises the ancient sutra form.

The aim of Tolle's teachings is the transformation of individual and collective human consciousness--a global spiritual awakening.

Core teachings that appear to arise from his works are:

1. You are not your thoughts. You are the awareness behind the thoughts. Thoughts are often negative and painful, yearning for or fearing something in the future, complaining about something in the present or fearing a matter from the past. However, the thoughts are not you; they are a construct of the ego. Awareness of your thoughts without being caught up in them is the first step to freedom.

2. Only the present moment exists. That is where life is (indeed it is the only place life can truly be found). Becoming aware of the 'now' has the added benefit that it will draw your attention away from your (negative) thoughts. Use mindfulness techniques to fully appreciate your surroundings and everything you are experiencing. Look and listen intently. Give full attention to the smallest details.

3. Accept the present moment. It is resistance to the present moment that creates most of the difficulties in your life. However, acceptance does not mean that you cannot take action to rectify the situation you are in. What is important is to drop resistance so that you let the moment be, and that any action arises from deeper awareness rather than from resistance. The vast majority of pain in a person's life comes from resistance to what is.

4. Observe the pain-body. Years of conditioned thought patterns, individually and collectively, have resulted in habitual emotional reactions with an apparent personality of their own. During 'pain-body attacks' we become completely identified with this 'pain identity' and respond from its agenda--which is to create more pain for ourselves and others. Observing the pain-body is awareness itself arising--as it allows humans to separate from this unconscious identification with pain.

Eckhart Tolle is not aligned with any particular religion or tradition.

Influences which are alluded to in The Power of Now are the writings of Meister Eckhart, Advaita Vedanta, A Course in Miracles and Zen Buddhism's Lin-chi (Rinzai) school. The book also interprets sayings of Jesus from the Bible.

ww.eckharttolle.com

How Anchoring Can Lead You To Success

2007-05-10T09:49:00.000+08:00

Have you ever wondered why Sports brand Nike pay sports stars millions of dollars to wear clothes brandishing the famous swish logo? They do it because they understand the power of anchoring.

Nike paid Tiger Woods and Michael Jordan millions of dollars to don the 'Nike' cap and apparel. Were they crazy?

No! They were aware that by having them put on the Nike equipment, consumers would associate 'Nike' with similar intense states of motivation and inspiration that is projected by these two famous sports personalities.

When people watched Jordan and felt incredible, they would see the Nike Swish. Sure enough, seeing the swish gave people great feelings and states of power, motivation and confidence which were anchored to the visual swish logo.

By using the power of anchoring, Nike has become the largest and most successful sports apparel company in the world. When Nike first started paying millions of dollars to sports stars, many of their competitors thought they were mad to waste so much money but at the end of the day it is Nike who is laughing all the way to the bank.

Don't get manipulated...create your own powerful anchors!

If advertisers spend millions of dollars to constantly anchor powerful states in you to their brands, isn't it time you took control and started creating powerful anchors for yourself?

Do you know how couples fall deeply in love? They get fantastic feelings of love anchored to a person's face and voice.

As time is spent together, anchors of all these great feelings start to be linked with their partner's face and voice. So, every time they think of each other, they feel wonderful!

Conversely, why do people often fall out of love after a while? It is because the positive anchors eventually collapse and are replaced with negative anchors.

When you are in a relationship, you are bound to have misunderstandings and unhappy moments. The danger comes when you see your partner's face while you are feeling these negative emotions.

After some time, those negative feelings of hurt and anger get linked to that person's face, voice and touch.

Over time, just thinking of that person brings up all those negative feelings. This is why many people, once so in love, reach a stage when they cannot see each other without getting upset and fighting. As a result, they eventually fall out of love and break up!

Anchoring is a process that we all are subjected to, all the time. We must understand the power of anchoring for two reasons.

The first is to install powerful anchors so that resourceful states can be accessed at any time we need to perform at our peak.

The second is to understand how negative anchors limit us. This way, we can collapse them and stop them from controlling us.

Once you understand how anchors can work to help you tap into your most resourceful states, you can use it to move you faster towards your goals!

So make use of the power of anchoring now to lead you to success.

To Your Success

Adam Khoo
www.SuccessWithNLP.com

生命的价值

2007-05-08T16:55:00.000+08:00

在一次讨论会上，一位著名的演说家没讲一句开场白，手里却高举着一张20美元的钞票。

　　面对会议室里的200个人，他问：“谁要这20美元？”一只只手举了起来。他接着说：“我打算把这20美元送给你们中的一位，但在这之前，请准许我做一件事。”他说着将钞票揉成一团，然后问：“谁还要。”仍有人举起手来。

　　他又说：“那么，假如我这样做又会怎么样呢？”他把钞票扔到地上，又踏上一只脚，并且用脚碾它。尔后他拾起钞票，钞票已变得又脏又皱。

　　“现在谁还要？”还是有人举起手来。

　　“朋友们，你们已经上了一堂很有意义的课。无论我如何对待那张钞票，你们还是想要它，因为它并没贬值。它依旧值20美元。人生路上，我们会无数次被自己的决定或碰到的逆境击倒、欺凌甚至碾得粉身碎骨。我们觉得自己似乎一文不值。但无论发生什么，或将要发生什么，在上帝的眼中，你们永远不会丧失价值。在他看来，肮脏或洁净，衣着齐整或不齐整，你们依然是无价之宝。生命的价值不依赖我们的所作所为，也不仰仗我们结交的人物，而是取决于我们本身！你们是独特的——永远不要忘记这一点！”

Feng Shui the Wardrobe

2007-04-19T15:47:00.000+08:00

Adapted from Clear Your Clutter with Feng Shui, by Karen Kingston.

Most people wear about 20 percent of their wardrobe 80 percent of the time. If you doubt me, do this test for a month: each time you wear something and launder it, hang it at one end of your wardrobe. At the end of the month you will find (unless you have deliberately changed your habits to beat this exercise or have a job that requires you to vary your outfits often) you are wearing these same clothes most of the time.

Actually it's not just the clothes you wear that follow this 20/80 pattern. It can be applied to everything else you own and to most activities in life. We all get 80 percent of our results from 20 percent of our efforts (this is known in the business world as the Pareto Principle, named after an Italian economist who first figured it out). Similarly, we get 80 percent use from 20 percent of our belongings.

So when it comes to clearing out your wardrobe, first separate your clothes honestly into the 20 percent you love to wear and the 80 percent that are just taking up space, and it becomes much easier to dump the excess.

When sorting through your 80 percent pile, it is wise to get clear on your criteria for whether something stays or goes. First check out the colors. A great investment is to have a professional color consultation to discover which colors uplift and enhance your energy, and which colors do the opposite. You will walk away with a swatch of color samples that are sure to make you look and feel great, and this does wonders for your self-assurance.

This helps you to sift through at least 50 percent of your clothes and discard them forever, because it suddenly becomes abundantly obvious to you that they never did anything for you in the first place.

Next, try on each item in the remaining pile and see how you feel. If you don't like the shape, the texture, the cut, the material, or anything else about it, let it go. You owe it to yourself to create a collection of outfits you absolutely love, so that never again do you open a wardrobe bulging with clothes and moan, "But I've got nothing to wear!"

Make a decision to never, ever buy anything again that isn't quite what you want, because now you know it will just end up in the 80 percent pile and you will have wasted your money. Resolve to buy only clothes that you love and that look great on you, and if this means that you buy three gorgeous outfits that cost a bit more rather than twenty cheaper ones, so be it.

And, yes, I recommend you do this even if you are short of money. In fact, making a point of always looking good and feeling good is one of the best ways you can raise your energy and so attract better prosperity to yourself.

Clothes and Energy Vibrations
Some people keep things they haven't worn in over twenty years. They say that if they hang on to them long enough they will come back into fashion. My advice is: if you haven't worn it in the last year, and especially if you haven't worn it in the last two or three years, then let it go.

Things Are Not Always Black or White

2007-04-17T10:42:00.000+08:00

When i was in elementary school, I got into a major argument with a boy in my class.... I have forgotten what the argument was about, but I have never forgotten the lesson I learned that day.

I was convinced that "I" was right and "he" was wrong ... and he was just as convinced that "I" was wrong and "he" was right. The teacher decided to teach us a very important lesson. She brought us up to the front of the class and placed him on one side of her desk and me on the other. In the middle of her desk was a large, round object. I could clearly see that it was black. She asked the boy what color the object was. "White," he answered....I couldn't believe he said the object was white, when it was obviously black!

Another argument started between my classmate and me, this time about the color of the object. The teacher told me to go stand where the boy was standing and told him to come stand where I had been. We changed places, and now she asked me what the color of the object was. I had to answer, "White." It was an object with two differently colored sides, and from his viewpoint it was white. Only from my side was it black.

My teacher taught me a very important lesson that day: You must stand in the other person's shoes and look at the situation through their eyes in order to truly understand their perspective...because once you have closed your mind to thinking that only you are right, you have actually rejected the whole truth...

Life philosophy - filling of an empty jar

2007-04-05T09:58:00.000+08:00

When things in your life seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a day are not enough, remember the story of an empty jar and the 2 cups of coffee.

A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, wordlessly, he picked up a very large empty jar and proceeded to fill it with rocks until the top of the jar.

He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was! So the professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles, of course, rolled into the open areas between the rocks. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous "yes."

The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar, effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed.

"Now," said the professor, as the laughter subsided, " I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The rocks are the important things - your health, your family, your partner, your children, your friends, your favorite passions - things that if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full.

The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house, and your car. The sand is everything else - the small stuff.

If you put the sand into the jar first, there is no room for the pebbles or the rocks. The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are important to you.

Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play with your children. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your partner out to dinner. Play another 18. There will always be time to go to work, clean the house, give a dinner party and fix the disposal"

Take care of the rocks first, the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand."

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee represented.

The professor smiled. "I'm glad you asked. It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there's always room for a couple of cups of coffee with a friend."

Vibration in Universe

2007-03-30T03:33:00.000+08:00

James Arthur Ray

You live in a vibrational universe
everything is vibration
from thought to thing.

Science and spirituality both agree
that what appears to be empty
space is actually a field of unlimited
consciousness and potential.

You are a creative
force within this
unlimited universe
and you create in
three domains

First, the world of thought
–which is the domain of intention

Intention is a vibration

Second, the world of body and motion
– this is the domain of
emotion. Emotion is
nothing more than
“energy in motion”

All emotions and actions vibrate

And finally the world of feeling
feeling is the ultimate vibration

Feeling is visceral –
you literally
“feel” in your body

Every feeling you sustain in your body creates
a biochemical change and simultaneously
sends a vibrational message to the Universe
calling forth a harmonizing vibration.

In this way your thoughts, feelings, and
actions create from the field of unlimited
potential and possibility.

When all three of your worlds come
together vibrationally – You create
anything you choose – Anything!

- How the power of attraction can help you get what you want?

- Law of Attraction Book

- The Science of Getting Rich

What Matters in Life

2007-03-28T13:38:00.000+08:00

(Author Unknown)

Some people understand life better

And they call some of these people "retarded"...

At the Seattle Special Olympics, nine contestants, all physically or mentally disabled, assembled at the starting line for the 100-yard dash.

At the gun, they all started out, not exactly in a dash, but with a relish to run the race to the finish and win.

All, that is, except one little boy who stumbled on the asphalt, tumbled over a couple of times, and began to cry. The other eight heard the boy cry.

They slowed down and looked back. Then they all turned around and went back every one of them. One girl with Down's Syndrome bent down and kissed him and said,"This will make it better."

Then all nine linked arms and walked together to the finish line.

Everyone in the stadium stood, the cheering went on for several minutes.

People who were there are still telling the story... Why? Because deep down we know this one thing: What matters in this life is more than winning for ourselves.

What matters in this life is helping others win, even if it means slowing down and changing our course.

Be Very Specific About Your Goal

2007-03-22T13:49:00.000+08:00

The first step to getting what you want is to know exactly what it is that you want. This sounds simple and obvious enough? Yet, sadly most people never seem to get what they want, simply because they are not clear about what it is they want in the first place!

Unless you have a specific target, you cannot develop an effective strategy to get there. The strategy required to make $200,000 is completely different from the strategy needed to make $20 million. The moment you clarify your goals, see them in your mind-eye (it’s called creative visualization) you will start to have focus in your life. It will then become crystal clear to you what it is you must do to get there.

Biographies of the most successful and legendary people, again in all pursuits, show time and again that their outstanding achievements are rarely outcomes of chance. They did not have success thrust onto them. Their phenomenal successes are the results of clearly defined outcomes that they had predetermined, and worked towards unwaveringly, often at a very early stage of their life.

At the age of eight, Tiger Woods set his goal of breaking every record set in golf and to become the world’s number one golfer. He accomplished this feat 13 years later at the age of 21. How? He spent those fourteen years focusing on his game in order to take it to the level he needed in order to be the best.

At the age of 12, Steven Spielberg knew that what he wanted to do was to tell stories to the world by making movies. It was this specific goal that directed him to spend his time making home videos at the age of 12 and exposing himself to movie sets at universal studios at the age of 18. It was these years of focused effort that allowed him to build the level of experience and skill he needed to make some of the best movies around.

Very few successful experiences happen by chance…whether it is winning a race or a position. Almost all happen by design. Yet, the sad fact is that most people do not have a plan for their lives, and end up falling into somebody else’s plan. It’s only when we know what we want very specifically that we are then able to focus all our talents and energy.

Like a laser beam honing in on its target. And in moving unwaveringly towards it, we develop the resources necessary to make it happen. Wherever you are in your life right now, you must begin to set specific goals on what you want to achieve in the different areas of your life.

About The Author
Adam Khoo is an entrepreneur, best-selling author and a self-made millionaire by the age of 26. Over the last 15 years, he has trained over 245,000 professionals, executives and business owners to tap their personal power and achieve excellence in their various fields of endeavor.

[Discover his success secrets and '6 Ways To Achieve Anything You Want In Life']

Track's Decision

2007-02-18T14:50:00.000+08:00

Daily Thinking Bread.....

A group of children were playing near two railway tracks, one still in use while the other disused.
Only one child played on the disused track, the rest on the operational track.

The train came, and you were just beside the track interchanger.
You could have made the train change its course to the disused track and saved most of the kids.
However, that would also mean the lone child playing by the disused track would be sacrificed.
Or would you rather let the train go its way?
Let's take a pause to think what kind of decision we could make.

Most people might choose to divert the course of the train, and sacrifice only one child.
You might think the same way, I guess. Exactly, I thought the same way initially because to save most of the children at the expense of only one child was a rational decision most people would make, morally and emotionally.

But, have you ever thought that the child choosing to play on the disused track had in fact made the right decision to play at a safe place?
Nevertheless, he had to be sacrificed because of his ignorant friends who chose to play where the danger was.

This kind of dilemma happens around us everyday. In the office, community, in politics and especially in a democratic society, the minority is often sacrificed forthe interest of the majority, no matter how foolish or ignorant the majority are, and how far-sighted and knowledgeable the minority are.

The child who chose not to play with the rest on the operational track was sidelined. And in the case he was sacrificed, no one would shed a tear for him. The friend whoforwarded me the story said he would not try to change the course of the train because he believed that the kids playing on the operational track should have known very well that track was still in use, and that they should have run away if they heard the train's sirens. If the train was diverted, that lone child would definitely die because he never thought the train could come over to that track!

Moreover, that track was not in use probably because it was not safe. If the train was diverted to the track, we could put the lives of all passengers on board at stake!

My friend is not a politician. However, in a democratic society, a politician should by all means garner the support of the majority. To sacrifice one far-sighted visionary is only one vote lost, but to sacrifice the ignorant majority may cost the politician his majority support.

Whatsoever decision you are going to make, my dear friend, choose not to stay away from the crowd and be sacrificed, unless you come across someone like that far-sighted friend of mine.

"Life moves pretty fast. If you don't stop to look around once in a while you could miss it."

Beliefs - The Key to Potential Power

2007-02-17T18:06:00.000+08:00

When we believe that something is possible, we will summon all the resources within and around us have to support that belief. We will open the tap to our creativity, energy and resources.

Does this mean that we will produce the exact result we envisioned? Not all the time. Still, having a belief of possibility will allow us to produce results far beyond what we can achieve than compared to having no belief to begin with.

Our beliefs not only affect our performance and results, they also affect the people we interact with as well. As a teacher, parent or boss, the beliefs you have about your students, children and employees will affect how you treat them, how they respond, ultimately resulting in their performance.

Have you ever heard of the Pygmalion effect? This psychological phenomenon was first presented by Robert Merton, a professor of sociology at Columbia University in 1957. It is about how our expectations of other people can create a self-fulfilling prophecy.

The study involved a teacher who was instructed to teach a new class of gifted students for the school year. In truth, these students had been tested and found to be of low I.Q. Moreover, they had behavioral problems.

Sure enough, when she started teaching, the students started misbehaving not caring to learn or respond. Because she believed they were students with high IQ, she figured that she was the cause of the problem, not the students!

She started to take responsibility for their misbehavior and disinterest in learning. She reflected that it could be due to her teaching style being too boring not stimulating enough to capture the attention of these gifted, demanding children.

Experimenting and changing the way she taught, she started to encourage them, arouse their curiosity, challenging them with games and activities, nurturing them along the whole process. The more she treated them like gifted students, the more the students responded.

At the end of the school year, the academic grades of the students jumped tremendously. And when retested, their IQs measured a 20-30 point increase on average.

She literally created gifted students! (Think of how supposedly slow learners languishing and underperforming because of uninspiring teachers?)

In his work called 'Social Theory and Social Structure', Merton said the phenomenon occurs when "a false definition of the situation evokes a new behavior which makes the original false conception come true."

In other words, once an expectation is set, even if it isn't accurate, we tend to act in ways consistent with that expectation. Often and surprisingly, the result is that the expectation, as if by magic, comes true.

At the same time, if we believe that a particular goal or desire is beyond our reach we shut out all possibility of ever achieving it. Choose empowering beliefs, beliefs that will drive us forward calling forth the inexhaustible resources we all possess, turning on the tap of our potential power.

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Love is Love

2007-02-16T13:28:00.000+08:00

"Cute Tigers"

In a California zoo, a mother tiger gave birth to a rare set of triplet tiger cubs. Unfortunately, due to pregnancy complications, the cubs were born prematurely and died shortly after birth. Mother tiger after recovering from the delivery, suddenly started to decline in health, although physically fine. The vets felt that the loss of her litter had caused her to fall into a depression. The doctors decided that if she could surrogate another mother's cubs, perhaps she would improve. After checking with many other zoos, the depressing news was that there were no tiger cubs of the right age to introduce to the tiger mother. The vets decided to try something that had never been tried in a zoo environment. Sometimes a mother of one species will take on the care of a different species. The only "orphans" that could be found quickly, were a litter of wiener pigs. The zoo keepers and vets wrapped the piglets in tiger skin and placed the babies around the mother tiger. The results ........

Love is Love - no matter where it's found and that's why we're all in love.

TO BE A MILLIONAIRE

2007-02-15T12:23:00.000+08:00

A jobless man applied for the position of "office boy" at Microsoft. The HR manager interviewed him then watched him cleaning the floor as a test. "You are employed."

He said." Give me your e-mail address and I'll send you the application to fill in, as well as date when you may start."

The man replied "But I don't have a computer, neither an email."
I'm sorry", said the HR manager, "If you don't have an email, that means you do not exist. And who doesn't exist, cannot have the job."

The man left with no hope at all. He didn't know what to do, with only $10 in his pocket. He then decided to go to the supermarket and buy a 10Kg tomato crate.

He then sold the tomatoes in a door to door round. In less than two hours, he succeeded to double his capital. He repeated the Operation three times, and returned home with $60. The man realized that he can survive by this Way, and started to go everyday earlier, and return late Thus, his money doubled or tripled every day. Shortly, he bought a cart, then a truck, then he had his own fleet of delivery vehicles.

5 years later, the man is one of the biggest food retailers in the US . He started to plan his family's future, and decided to have a life insurance.

He called an insurance broker, and chose a protection plan. When the conversation was concluded, the broker asked him his email.

The man replied, "I don't have an email".

The broker answered curiously, "You don't have an email, and yet have succeeded to build an empire. Can you imagine what you could have been if you had an email?!!"

The man thought for a while and replied, "Yes, I'd be an office boy at Microsoft!"

Moral of the story:

M1 - Internet is not the solution to your life.
M2 - If you don't have internet, and work hard, you can be a millionaire.
M3 - If you received this message by email, you are closer to being an office boy, than a millionaire..........

Use the Power of Your Wishes for Greater Well-Being

2007-02-14T12:41:00.000+08:00

Whether for its joy or sorrow, whatever we wish for another comes true for us in the same moment we make that wish!

Find New Strength in Awakened Attention

When attention is directed, it has the ability to invest an idea with energy and life. Wherever you place your attention, you give life to that seed of thought. You can see this in operation all the time. Has it ever happened to you that you had a thought, and soon discovered that someone else, a friend or co-worker, had a similar idea? It almost seems as though your attending to the thought gave it a life of its own and passed it to another person. We've all had something like this happen: you're stopped at a red light, and you look out your car window at a man passing by. You follow him with your eyes, and the next thing you know he turns around and looks at you! The power of attention almost seems to have a magnetic pull.

This power can be used for good or bad. When we use it for practical work, or for honest self-observation, we use it to our own benefit. However, when this power operates unconsciously to strengthen self-harming ideas, it becomes a barrier to natural strength, happiness, and love. At every moment, we stand on the threshold to a completely different and better life. If we become conscious of the true cause of our unhappiness, we can direct our attention away from its unconscious focus. At that point, something higher can come in to help us use the power of attention for our true good.

But first we must see how wrongly directed attention works against us. Perhaps a thought comes to you about a problem that's been bothering you. The thought takes an inner state and defines it for you by naming its "cause." Once the thought comes, your mind gives it attention. In that moment, you've animated that thought and given it life -- and the life you've given it is your own! Here's an example of how this might come about. A man is walking through his office when his boss walks by and gives him a blank look. The thought pops into the man's mind that his boss is criticizing him or doesn't like him. He focuses attention on the thought, which strengthens it. He's convinced the boss has it in for him. The thought grows in authority for him, tormenting him for the rest of the day and causing him to snap at his family when he gets home. A hitchhiking spirit has been created out of the conjunction of a passing glance and misdirected attention.

Here is the amazing thing. This whole drama has been played out inside of the man, but not only does he not see its true origin, he believes it has been cast upon him by someone else -- his heartless boss! He tries to get rid of the painful feelings by arguing with his boss, either outwardly or in his mind. The more he feels punished by the situation the more he wants to fight with it, thinking that its existence is separate from him, but it's not independent of him. He gave it its existence by unconsciously permitting his attention to be drawn to it. The more he resists it, the more it grows. The more it grows, the more he resists. The situation gets worse, and the worse it gets, the more he's convinced that the whole thing has been caused by something outside of him. Nothing can change until he begins to understand that his attention animated the thought, which he then wrongly fed with his own life. Only by becoming aware of this can he begin to use properly his most powerful weapon: attention.

We must use our awakened attention to catch unnecessary thoughts and withdraw our consent from them.

We've suffered because we've unconsciously consented to painful thoughts. We've animated these thoughts with our own energy, and they have then been able to direct our behavior, leading us to fight, overeat, spend money, drink, and a thousand other self-destructive behaviors. By withdrawing our consent from these thoughts, we no longer animate negative energies. We neither resist them nor try to change them, two approaches that only seem to strengthen the problem. But withdrawing our consent is a method that cannot lose.

At the moment we feel a pain, we must notice where our attention is. We can use the pain to look back into our lives to see what we've been consenting to. This action separates us from the situation so we can see where our attention is. We see that for the past half hour we've been engaged in an imaginary argument with someone who isn't even there! We see that we've been animating painful thoughts. We suffer because we think about things that make us suffer. We get angry because we think about things that make us angry. Now we come to an amazing discovery: if I accidentally gave that negative spirit life, I can also consciously withdraw that life.

Until now, we've unconsciously allowed our attention to be carried by any passing thought, but now we will be attentive to where our attention is. As an exercise, several times each day we can break into our own thoughts and become wide awake to ourselves. For example, you might set yourself the task of trying to become aware of yourself and where your thoughts are every time you pass through a doorway. That evening, as you walk from your kitchen to your living room, you remember yourself as you pass through the door and realize that you're worrying about something you have to do the next day. You realize that there is no reason for you to be thinking about that at the moment, and that your worry has put you in an irritable mood. Your awareness shows you that you are not required to think those thoughts, and the mood they created is not real. You can refocus your attention, and go on to enjoy your evening.

When we drop negative spirits, our precious resources are no longer mobilized to fight an unnecessary war. We are filled with real life and Light, and we face each new experience with enthusiasm and curiosity; for life is whole and good when we are no longer surrounded by enemies that we ourselves created.

-- Guy Finley
Excerpted from Who Put That Stone In My Shoe?
© 1998-2006 Guy Finley/Life of Learning Foundation

How the power of attraction can help you get what you want?

2007-02-13T13:36:00.000+08:00

"Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become" said Jim Rohn, one of the world's leading motivational speaker, philosopher and entrepreneur. Every great achiever knows that certain mental laws exist by which you can turn all your dreams into reality. The Law of Attraction is one of the most important to understand, use and abuse!

Like attracts like.

"For intelligence cleaveth unto intelligence; wisdom receiveth wisdom; truth embraceth truth; virtue loveth virtue; light cleaveth unto light; mercy hath compassion on mercy and claimeth her own; justice continueth its course and claimeth its own." This ancient scripture summarize what the law of attraction is all about. It is attracting to your life whatever you give your attention, focus and energy to, whether wanted or unwanted. The Law of attraction can work for you or against you. It's all up to you. What are your main thoughts directed to: goals, success, achievement, wisdom, truth, love?

Simply ask yourself: "So, what do I want?"

Studies have shown that more than 90% of self-talk is negative. In other words, all day long, you fill your mind, consciously or not, with negative thoughts and unproductive feelings. You therefore get a corresponding life. The law of attraction doesn't know (and doesn't care) if this is a good or bad thought. It attracts whatever you're thinking about. The solution to a more successful life is simply asking yourself: "So, what do I really want?" Take some time to define your ideal lifestyle, in every aspect of your life: family, business, financial freedom... And now that you have defined these goals, use techniques like affirmations or visualization to literally flood your mind with positive, motivating thoughts and feelings.

Does everyone ELSE seems luckier?

A lot of people like the verb "to complain". This is because they don't want to take 100% responsibility for their lives. However, this is the solution. "Everyone seems luckier than me," they say. Luck is a shorter term for "applying the law of attraction into my life daily". You can be as "lucky" as anybody else. Follow some simple steps that every highly successful person will tell you: set goals, dream big dreams, fill your mind with these positive thoughts and emotions and let the Law of Attraction work for you.

What You Think Is What You Get

Your reality will represent what is going on in your mind and subconscious mind. Your attitude will be reflected back to you by the attitude of those close to you and around you on a daily basis. If you are positive and optimistic - you'll have positive and optimistic people around you.

Re-visit from time to time the definition: "the Law of Attraction is attracting to your life whatever you give your attention, focus and energy to, whether wanted or unwanted." It works all the time, everywhere, it's completely up to you to activate it. Set goals, long-term goals and literally flood your mind with positive, motivating thoughts and feelings. This is how you become excellent, more prosperous and a successful entrepreneur.

see also:
- Law of Attraction Info
- The Law of Attraction: A Comprehensive Guide
- The Secret (The Secret Trailer in YouTube)

Watch the 1st 20 minutes of The Secret DVD-Movie:

www.youtube.com/watch?v=_b1GKGWJbE8

- The Secret featured on The Oprah Winfrey Show on February 8th, 2007
- The Oprah Winfrey Primetime Show - Discovering The Secret
- The Secret on Larry King (CNN) Live (featured on November 02 and 16, 2006)
- "Beyond the Power of Positive Thinking" on Larry King Live (alternate site by James Arthur Ray)
- CNN Larry's King interview with Oprah Winfrey on Law of Attraction of The Secret
- Ezine Articles on Law of Attraction
- Emmanuel Segui's articles in EzineArticles.com
- More articles by Emmanuel Segui
- Books on Power of Attraction and Positive Energy - PsiTek's free Metaphysical Books
- 'Secret' attracts plenty of attention reported by USA Today
- The Secret Book (also shown in Oprah's Books) [The Secret Book in Chinese]
- The Secret Movie DVD (also sold in Gaiam)
- What Is The Secret? ::: The Official Secret Blog
- The Secret Gratitude Book by Rhonda Byrne
- Abraham—The Secret Behind "The Secret"?
- Law of Attraction Book
- The Science of Getting Rich

Building Self-Confidence: How to Initiate a Virtuous Cycle

2007-02-12T09:38:00.000+08:00

By Jeff Griswold

It's no secret that self-confidence is very important to achieving success in any area of life. The thing about self-confidence is that it is very sensitive to our personal experience and is inherently instable. In other words, your self-confidence has a snowball affect. And it can snowball in a positive direction or it can snowball in a negative direction. Here's how it works:

How the Negative Snowball works:

1. If you start out with low self-confidence (see below to learn more about how this happens), you're less likely to take on challenges or try new things.
2. On the rare occasion that you try to accomplish something, your low self-confidence can sabotage your efforts and you're much less likely to succeed.
3. Your lack of accomplishment and your failures reinforce your low self-confidence.
4. Then it's back to step 1 and the cycle repeats; limiting your ability to live a better life.

How the Positive Snowball works:

1. If you have self-confidence, you're more likely to attempt just about anything, so you try more things.
2. And when you attempt something with confidence in your abilities, you're very likely to succeed.
3. As a result, your success increases your self-confidence.
4. Return to step 1 and repeat, and repeat, and repeat until you reach your full potential!

Wearing a Groove in Your Brain
At the risk of over-simplifying a phenomenally complex process, what's happening in your brain is that these snowball cycles wear a groove through the vast array of neurons and synapses. So, neurologically you are physically carving a path of least resistance through your brain. With enough reinforcement, you develop a reflex to certain kinds of stimuli.

For example, if a smoker tries to quit smoking and fails and he allows a negative snowball cycle to take place he'll lose confidence in his ability to quit. And he'll eventually develop a negative reflex to the idea of quitting. Once that happens, if anyone suggests that he quit or someone offers a new way to try to quit, his brain will automatically reject the possibility. In his brain, the mere suggestion of quitting will trigger an impulse that will follow that well-worn path of least resistance; the path that equates trying to quit with failure.

But this works the other way, too. A positive snowball cycle will wear a groove that creates a positive reflex. We ve all known people like this. They're the ones who are eager to try anything and seem to succeed at everything. And in the rare occasions when they fail, they are undeterred. The positive reflex they ve created in their brain allows them to learn from their mistakes and equate failure with I'll do even better next time!

How Does the Low Self-Confidence Cycle Start?
Unfortunately, virtually everyone has been programmed from childhood with negatives that make us believe we can't do things that we are innately capable of doing. A lot of it is self-imposed programming. If we fail to do something perfectly the first time we try it, it is only human nature to begin to believe that we can't do it.

We also receive negative programming from others that can greatly impact our self-confidence. We are told repeatedly as a child "You can't do this or "You'll never be able to do that. If we accept this programming which, again, is only human nature our self-confidence is weakened accordingly.

Take a moment now to think back on your own life. Think about the things that you ve been led to believe you cannot attain but that you know intellectually are entirely possible. It could be anything; a certain level of income; academic achievement; great athletic performance; success at love, etc. If you're like most people, it won t take long to come up with a sizable list.

Fortunately, when some people are told they can't do something, they refuse to accept that programming and go on to prove that they indeed can. For example:

- Beethoven's teacher said he was hopeless as a composer.
- Thomas Edison's teachers said he was too stupid to learn anything
- Leo Tolstoy, the author of War & Peace, was told he couldn't learn
- Albert Einstein did not speak until he was 4, didn't read until he was 7. His teacher called him mentally slow.
- One of the early teachers of the great opera singer Enrico Caruso said he had no voice at all and could not sing.

There are many other examples, but the point is that each and every one of us has given up on at least one thing because we lacked the confidence to try! And the world has undoubtedly been robbed of the great contributions of countless gifted people because of such negativity.

How to Build Your Self-Confidence
The good news is that a negative self-confidence cycle is completely reversible! You can learn how to eliminate existing negative thought reflexes and replace them with positive thought reflexes. By mastering a few easy techniques you'll be able to recognize and reject negative programming before you allow it to begin to erode your confidence.

There are dozens of techniques to help you build your self-confidence and self-esteem. These include:

- Positive Affirmations
- Guided Visualization
- Mental Imagery
- Goal-Oriented Meditation
- Breathing Techniques
- Subliminal Programming
- Whole-Brain Learning

Here's one simple technique you can start using today that will help you initiate a virtuous cycle of improved self-confidence...

Using Positive Affirmations to Build Self-Confidence Positive
Affirmations are carefully-worded positive statements that you repeat to yourself and are designed to establish new thinking patterns in your mind. Using affirmations is a very effective way to build self-confidence. It seems simple and initially it can actually be a little uncomfortable but remember, what you're trying to do is to wear a new groove in your brain. You're trying to create a new path of least resistance and establish a positive reflex in your mind. And the best way to create a new reflex is through repetition of positive thoughts, images and feelings.

Below, I've included a small handful of powerful affirmations for you to begin using today. The way to use affirmations is to repeat the statements to yourself (out loud or silently). When you repeat an affirmation, feel it, believe it, and know it! Put some positive emotion into it. Emotion-backed programming is the most powerful and long lasting. Allow yourself to experience the feelings of joy, satisfaction, power and self-confidence as you do each affirmation. Make each one a true part of your reality.

Use your favorite affirmations routinely throughout the day, and really feel them. When you do you will eventually make a quantum leap. You will suddenly be far beyond the doubts that accompany wishing, hoping, daydreaming, and even believing. You will enter the zone of knowing.

When you enter the zone of knowing, supreme self-confidence is automatically there. All doubt is gone. You know you can do it. You know it will happen, just as surely as if it had already happened. And quite likely at some dimension it has happened for you! When you enter the zone of knowing, your self-confidence is unshakable and your untapped potential is released. You feel invincible!

Another great way to use affirmations is to say them while looking in a mirror. Say them with feeling and soon you'll become aware of how powerful your eyes are. It's said that the eyes are the windows of the soul. Ralph Waldo Emerson wrote that each of us carries in our eyes the exact indication of our rank. We send messages with our eyes that show how we think of ourselves and how self-confident we are. And that influences how others respond to us. The more our eyes bespeak self-confidence and self-esteem, the more other people are likely to hold us in high esteem. Some people have developed a penetrating gaze that makes it seem as if they can look into your very soul. As you practice your affirmations in the mirror, you'll see this in your own eyes and soon others will feel the confidence that you project.

Sample Affirmations:

- I now free myself from false limits
- I choose to be self-confident
- I now feel self-confident
- I radiate self-confidence
- I reject negativity at all levels of consciousness
- I love turning negatives into positives
- The more positive I am, the more confident I am
- I now think as a positive person
- I breath as a positive person
- I feel positive and confident
- I am intelligent
- I am capable
- I speak with self-confidence
- My body language projects self-confidence
- People sense my self-confidence, which gives them confidence in me
- I am positive and confident
- I'm becoming aware of my true potential
- I enjoy being positive
- Being positive builds my self-confidence
- I feel positive and confident
- I am positive and confident

Start Today
There are many other powerful techniques that you can use to improve your self-confidence and build your self-esteem. But this will get you started in the right direction. The most important thing to remember is that repetition and positive emotions are critical to changing the way you think. While it's possible to do this on your own, most people need a defined program for the direction and support they need to commit to a change.

Many people find that listening to audio programs is the best way to provide the consistency that's needed to develop new, healthy, positive thought habits. In addition to Positive Affirmations, the best audio programs will incorporate a variety of techniques including guided visualizations, mental imagery, goal-oriented meditation, subliminal programming, whole-brain learning, and more.

So, employ whatever resources you need to commit to improving your self-confidence. Whether it's an audio program or help from your friends, family or therapist your self-confidence is too important to allow it to wither away. Be confident that you can improve your confidence and it will change your life.

Copyright © 2005 Jeff Griswold, Effective Learning Systems, Inc.
Jeff Griswold is the President of Effective Learning Systems, Inc., the leading creator of audio CDs and tapes for helping you build self-esteem and self-confidence. With over 100 titles available, their programs are the bestselling self-improvement audio programs in national bookstores - including Barnes & Noble and Borders - and have been for over 20 years. Jeff can be reached by email or at 952-943-1660. Get your free copy of a 24-page report showing you how you can harness the unlimited power within yourself to achieve your full potential: "The Greatest Thing You'll Ever Learn".

see also:
Metamorphosis

Quote from Napoleon Hill

2007-02-11T18:17:00.000+08:00

Napoleon Hill (1883 - 1970) American writer
See also: Success Through a Positive Mental Attitude (1960) Co-authored with W. Clement Stone

Knowledge has no value except that which can be gained by its application

A goal is a dream with a deadline.

Education comes from within; you get it by struggle and effort and thought.

All achievements, all earned riches, have their beginning in an idea.

Any idea, plan, or purpose may be placed in the mind through repetition of thought.

Do not wait; the time will never be "just right." Start where you stand, and work with whatever tools you may have at your command, and better tools will be found as you go along.

Action is the real measure of intelligence.

Cherish your visions and your dreams as they are the children of your soul, the blueprints of your ultimate achievements.

Big pay and little responsibility are circumstances seldom found together.

Desire is the starting point of all achievement, not a hope, not a wish, but a keen pulsating desire which transcends everything.

Effort only fully releases its reward after a person refuses to quit.

Great achievement is usually born of great sacrifice, and is never the result of selfishness.

Hold a picture of yourself long and steadily enough in your mind's eye, and you will be drawn toward it.

Every person who wins in any undertaking must be willing to cut all sources of retreat. Only by doing so can one be sure of maintaining that state of mind known as a burning desire to win - essential to success.

Ideas are the beginning points of all fortunes.

If you cannot do great things, do small things in a great way.

If you do not conquer self, you will be conquered by self.

Just as our eyes need light in order to see, our minds need ideas in order to conceive.

It has always been my belief that a man should do his best, regardless of how much he receives for his services, or the number of people he may be serving or the class of people served.

Man, alone, has the power to transform his thoughts into physical reality; man, alone, can dream and make his dreams come true.

Money without brains is always dangerous.

More gold has been mined from the thoughts of men than has been taken from the earth.

Persistence is to the character of man as carbon is to steel.

One must marry one's feelings to one's beliefs and ideas. That is probably the only way to achieve a measure of harmony in one's life.

No man is ever whipped until he quits in his own mind.

No man can succeed in a line of endeavor which he does not like.

Procrastination is the bad habit of putting off until the day after tomorrow what should have been done the day before yesterday.

Self-disciplined begins with the mastery of your thoughts. If you don't control what you think, you can't control what you do. Simply, self-discipline enables you to think first and act afterward.

Strength and growth come only through continuous effort and struggle.

Success in its highest and noblest form calls for peace of mind and enjoyment and happiness which come only to the man who has found the work that he likes best.

The battle is all over except the "shouting" when one knows what is wanted and has made up his mind to get it, whatever the price may be.

The ladder of success is never crowded at the top.

The majority of men meet with failure because of their lack of persistence in creating new plans to take the place of those which fail.

The world has the habit of making room for the man whose actions show that he knows where he is going.

Think and grow rich.

Through some strange and powerful principle of "mental chemistry" which she has never divulged, nature wraps up in the impulse of strong desire, "that something" which recognizes no such word as "impossible," and accepts no such reality as failure.

Understand this law and you will then know, beyond room for the slightest doubt, that you are constantly punishing yourself for every wrong you commit and rewarding yourself for every act of constructive conduct in which you indulge.

There are no limitations to the mind except those we acknowledge.

War grows out of the desire of the individual to gain advantage at the expense of his fellow man.

When your desires are strong enough you will appear to possess superhuman powers to achieve.

You give before you get.

You must get involved to have an impact. No one is impressed with the won-lost record of the referee.

Your big opportunity may be right where you are now.

Who said it could not be done? And tell me what great victories does he have to his credit which qualifies him to judge what can and can't be accomplished.

One of the main weaknesses of mankind is the average man's familiarity with the word 'impossible.'

Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve.

How to Develop Empowering Beliefs and Values

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[email from Adam Khoo sent on 19-Dec-2006 00:40]

Our beliefs act as the 'on' and 'off' switch to our brain and our inner resources. Without the right beliefs in place, none of the other steps in the success formula matter.

Our beliefs determine what we want and what we do when we don't get what we want. If you have limiting beliefs like, 'It's too difficult', 'I'm too young', 'it's not possible', 'I am not a good speaker', it is highly unlikely that you will set inspiring goals in the first place.

If you don't have empowering beliefs, you will not set goals for yourself. And nobody can set goals for you either.

Similarly, limiting beliefs about yourself and the situation will make you 'give up' rather than change your strategy and take action until you succeed.

If you believe that you don't have the capability or that 'it is too difficult', then you are more likely to quit than change your strategy and take action until you succeed.

So an empowering set of beliefs is truly one of the keys you need to punch in, to set the rest of the formula in motion.

The second key that drives the success are our values or what we hold dear to us, and live by. Values are like emotional hot buttons that drive our behavior. They are what we value as important in our lives.

All of us regard values like 'success', 'freedom', 'security', 'love' and 'happiness' very differently. And it is the way we internally rank these values that determine the kinds of choices we make, and the actions we take.

Some people are driven towards reaching their goals because of their need to feel secure. Others may be driven by a different value, like freedom. "I want to earn enough to be free" (free from want, free to walk out of a boring job) is an often-heard goal.

The important thing is that whatever our values are, they must be aligned with our goals. The main reason why most people never feel driven towards their goals is because their values are not aligned, their values may even be in conflict with their goals.

I once had a student (a young mother) who could never feel consistently motivated towards her goals of achieving her sales targets. It was later that it dawned on her that her goals and values were in direct conflict. She valued 'family' but as a professional, she also valued 'success'.

This internal conflict drained a lot of her energy, and held her back. She wanted to achieve her career goals but she felt guilty whenever the pursuit of her goal prevented her from spending time with her family.

Successful have empowering beliefs that they can achieve what they set out to do and they ensure they align their values with their goals.

If you want to become successful, develop empowering beliefs and align your values because if you don't, there is almost no chance that success will knock on your door.

To Your Success,

Adam Khoo
www.SecretsOfSelf-MadeMillionaires.com

Observations ... so true ??

2007-02-09T19:30:00.000+08:00

1. Tests have show that women rate 3% higher in general intelligence than men, though their brain size is smaller.

2. Women are walking radar detectors, that is why men have difficulty lying to women. Their brains have the ability to integrate and decipher verbal, visual and other signals of body language. Hence, women will always be safe when faking an orgasm.

3. Women wants lots of sex with the man she loves. Men just want lots of sex.

4. When men flirt, they will lower their pitch of voice. Women will raise theirs.

5. Women talk and think aloud while men do them silently. As a result, men think women talk too much and are nags.

6. Women talk about their problems as a way of relieving stress. She wants to be heard, not fixed by being offered advice and solutions.

7. Speech and words are not a specific brain skill for men. They find it hard to express themselves. That's why they often choose greeting cards with plenty of words inside. That way, there's less space for them to write.

8. Women leave men, not because they are unhappy with what he can provide, but because they are emotionally unfulfilled.

9. Women uses an average of 20,000 communication words, sounds, andgestures a day. Men only use about 7,000.

10. So if a woman is talking to you a lot, she likes you. But if she'snot talking, you're in trouble.

11. Men are more thick-skin than women. Literally. Which explains why women have more wrinkles than men. Boys loses their sensitivity touch by the time they reach puberty. So where does all thatsensitivity go? It all goes to just one area.

12. If a woman is unhappy in her relationship, she can't concentrate on her work. If a man is unhappy at work, he can't focus on his relationship.

13. Men can only do one thing at a time. When they stop their car to read a street directory, they have to turn down the radio. Women's brain are configured for multi-tasking performance. They can talk onthe phone, watch the TV and cook at the same time.

14. Most men get a brain haemorrhage after 20 minutes of clothes shopping.

15. When it comes to sex, women need a reason; men need a place.

16. 15% to 20% of men have feminised brains. About 10% of women have masculinised brains. So there are more gays than lesbians in the world.

17. Most women prefer sex with the lights off - they can't bear to see a man enjoying himself. Men likes the lights on - so they can get the woman's name right.

Good Inspirational Quotes

2007-02-08T03:38:00.000+08:00

Imagine life as a game in which you are juggling five balls in the air. You name them: work, family, health, friends, and spirit, and you're keeping all of them in the air.

You will soon understand that work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back.

But the other four balls -- family, health, friends, and spirit are made of glass. If you drop one of these, they will be irrevocably scuffed, marked, nicked, damaged, or even shattered. They will never be the same. You must understand that and strive for balance in your life.

How?

Don't undermine your worth by comparing yourself with others. It is because we are different that each of us is special.

Don't set your goals by what other people deem important. Only you know what is best for you.
Don't take for granted the things closest to your heart. Cling tothem as you would your life, for without them, life is meaningless.

Don't let life slip through your fingers by living in the past or for the future. By living your life one day at a time, you live ALL thedays of your life.

Don't give up when you still have something to give. Nothing isreally over until the moment you stop trying.

Don't be afraid to admit that you are less than perfect. It is thisfragile thread that binds us together.

Don't be afraid to encounter risks. It is by taking chances that welearn to be brave.

Don't shut love out of your life by saying it's impossible to find.

The quickest way to receive love is to give; the fastest way to lose love is to hold it too tightly; and the best way to keep love is to give it wings.

Don't run through life so fast that you forget not only where you've been, but also where you are going.

Don't forget that a person's greatest emotional need is to feel appreciated.

Don't use time or words carelessly. Neither can be retrieved.

Life is not a race, but a journey to be savored each step of the way.

Yesterday is History, Tomorrow is a Mystery, and Today is a gift: that's why we call it Present

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" Time is too slow for those who wait,

Too swift for those who fear,

Too long for those who grief,

Too short for those who rejoice,

But for those who love

- Time is Eternity. "

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Meaninful!

2007-02-07T13:38:00.000+08:00

This is meaningful do take time to read it...

As long as we have memories, yesterday remains; as long as we have hope, tomorrow awaits. As long as we have friendship, each day is never a waste.

To love is like playing the piano. First, you must learn to play by the rules. Then, you must forget the rules and play from your heart.

There are some things that we never want to let go of... people we never want to leave behind, but keep in mind that letting go isn't the end of the world. It's the beginning of new life.

Sometimes, it is good to be "alone"... but that doesn't make us lonely. It is not a matter of being present "with" someone, it is a matter of being present "to" someone.

The greatest regrets in our lives are the risks we did not take. If you think something will make you happy, go for it. Remember that you pass thisway only once!

Heartbreaks will last as long as you want and cut deep as you allow them to go; the challenge is not how to survive heartbreaksbut to learn from them.

True love doesn't have a happy ending. That's because true love doesn't havean ending.

Many people will walk in and out of your life, but only true friends willleave footprints in your heart.

A heart truly in love never loses hope but always believes in the promise of love, no matter how long the time and how far the distance.

We are never given dreams without also being given the power to make them come true.

A casual friend will say, "Hi, hello!" A close friend adds, "How are you doing?" But a true friend further asks, "What can I do to help?"

Lots of people will want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limobreaks down.

Love has its own time, season and own reasons! You can't ask it to stay, you can only embrace it as it comes and be glad that for a moment in your lifeit was yours!

We have no right to ask when sorrow comes, "Why did this happen to me?" unless we ask the same question for every moment of happiness that comes ourway.

The recipe of friendship: 1 cup of sharing, 2 cups of caring, 1 cup of forgiveness and hugs of tenderness. Mix all these together... to make friends forever.

Just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to doesn't meanthey don't love you with all they have.

To discover new oceans, you should lose sight of the shore.

Happiness is like perfume, you can't pour on others without getting a few drops on yourself.

Friends are like stars. You can't always see them, but you know they are there.

Have great hopes and dare to go all out for them. Have great dreams and dare to live them. Have tremendous expectations and believe in them.

As I look back on my past, I remember the tears I cried, the jokes I laughed at, the things I missed and lost, but there's one thing I'll never regret:
it's the day you became my friend.

Chicken Soup for the Soul

2007-02-06T08:56:00.000+08:00

dearest parents.. some food for thot! It is a gem.

If I Had My Child to Raise Over Again

If I had my child to raise all over again, I'd finger-paint more, and point the fingers less.

I would do less correcting and more connecting.

I'd take my eyes off my watch, and watch with my eyes.

I would care to know less and know to care more.

I'd take more hikes and fly more kites.

I'd stop playing serious, and seriously play.

I would run through more fields and gaze at more stars.

I'd do more hugging and less tugging.

I'd build self-esteem first, and the house later.

I would be firm less often, and affirm much more.

I'd teach less about the love of power,

And more about the power of love.

By Diane Loomans
from Condensed Chicken Soup for the Soul
Copyright 1996 by Jack Canfield, Mark Victor Hansen & Patty Hansen

The 24 Interludes of Life

2007-02-05T17:18:00.000+08:00

When we start thinking about life we just forget some lessons and some we don't remember sooner. Here read these and I am sure you will like them all.
Have a nice time.... :

1.
Don't go for looks, they can deceive;
Don't go for wealth even that fades away.
Go for someone who makes you smile.

2.
There are moments in life when you really miss someone that you want to pick them from your dreams and hug them.
Hope you dream of that someone.

3.
Dream what you want to dream;
Go where you want to go;
Be what you want to be
because you have only one life
and one chance to do all the things you want in life.

4.
May you have .....
enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human, enough hope to make you happy and enough money to buy gifts!!

5.
When one door of happiness closes, another opens but often welook so long at the closed door that we don't see the one which has been opened for us.

6.
The best kind of friend is the one
you could sit on a porch,
swing with, never saying a word, and
then walk away feeling
like that was the best
conversation you've had.

7.
It's true that we don't know what we've got until we lose it, but it's also true that we don't know what we've been missing until it arrives.

8.
Always put yourself in other's shoes. if you feel that it hurts you, it probably does hurt the person, too.

9.
A careless word may kindle strife;
A cruel word may wreck a life;
A timely word may level stress;
A loving word may heal and bless.

10.
The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves, and not to twist them with our own image otherwise, we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them.

11.
The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best ofeverything; they just make the most of everything that comes along theirway.

12.
Maybe God wants us to meet a few wrong people before meeting the right one so that when we finally meet the right person, we should know how to be grateful for that gift.

13.
It takes a minute to have a crush on someone, an hour to like someone and a day to love someone - but it takes a lifetime to forget someone.

14.
Happiness lies for those who cry, those who hurt, those who have searched and those who have tried.
For only they can appreciate the importance of people who have touched their lives.

15.
Love is when you take away the feeling, the passion, the romance and you find out you still care for that person.

16.
A sad thing about life is that when you meet someone who means a lot to you only to find out in the end that it was never bound to be and you just have to let go.

17.
Love starts with a smile,
develops with a kiss and
ends with a tear.

18.
Love comes to those who still hope even though they've been disappointed, to those who still believe, even though they've been betrayed, need to love those who still love, even though they've been hurt before.

19.
It hurts to love someone and
not be loved in return,
but what is most painful is to
love someone and never finds
the courage to let the person
know how you feel.

20.
The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past, you can't go on well in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.

21.
Never say goodbye when
you still want to try,
never give up when you still feel
you can take it,
never say you don't love that
person anymore when you can't let go.

22.
Giving someone all your love
is never an assurance that they'll
love you back!
Don't expect love in return,
just wait for it to grow in their hearts but if it doesn't,
be content, it grew in yours.

23.
There are things you love to hear
but you would never hear it from
the person whom you would like
to hear it from, but don't be deaf
to hear it from the person
who says it with his heart.

24.
When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling, live your life to the fullest so that when you die, you're smiling
and everyone around you is crying.

Meaningful advice about "LOVE"

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Meaningful advice.

Do take some time to read them, even if you have already read it before, read again to find some new meaning within the words...

1. I love you not because of who you are, but because of who I am when I am with you.

2. No man is worth your tears, and the one who is won't make you cry.

3. Just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to, doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have.

4. They say love hides behind every corner, then I must be walking in circles.

5. A true friend is someone who reaches for your hand and touches your heart.

6. The worst way to miss someone is to be sitting right beside them, knowing you can't have them.

7. Never frown, even when your are sad, because you never know who is falling in love with your smile.

8. To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world.

9. Don't waste your time on a someone, who isn't willing to waste their time on you.

10. Maybe God wants us to meet a few wrong people before meeting the right one, so that when we finally meet the person, we will know how to be grateful.

11. Don't cry because it is over, smile because it happened.

12. There's always going to be people that hurt you, so what you have to do is keep on trusting and just be more careful about who you trust next time around.

13. Make yourself a better person and know who you are before you try, and know someone else and expect them to know you.

14. Don't try so hard; the best things come when you least expect them to.

"People are like stained glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in, their true beauty is revealed only if there is a light from within"

*~*~*Mistakes that don't kill you can only make you stronger*~*~*

Quote

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What do you know for sure?

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Have you ever been asked such a question? And if so, how did you answer it?

Chances are, most of us would probably stall for time if the question was ever asked. No doubt it's a question rarely asked and it does require us to think long and hard about it. Below is a list done up by Michael Angier, founder and president of SuccessNet. Do read up and try coming up with your own list.

1. We are Responsible for Our Life.
And nobody else. Although all success requires the assistance and cooperation of others, our success can never be left to anyone else. Luck is not a strategy.

2. Life is Short.
Whether we live 20 years or 100, our lives pass quickly. All the more reason to spend our life doing what we love. Since we never know how much time we have left, we should live each day as if it is our last—for it just may be.

3. You Can't Learn Less.
We can only add to our knowledge. We don't have to give some of it up in exchange for new knowledge. Our ability to absorb and retain knowledge may just be unlimited.

4. Clarity Leads to Power.
When we're clear, we're more effective. Our clarity reduces our mistakes and enables us to enlist the help of others. We are more powerful when we are clear, and we are weaker when we are confused.

5. What You Sow, You Reap.
This is also called The Law of the Farm or The Law of Reciprocity. In order to continue to receive we must give.

6. You Can't Un-ring a Bell.
No one can change what's already happened. Whatever is done is done. It's up to us whether we use the experience to learn or allow ourselves to be run by the experience.

7. It Takes a Long Time to Build a Good Reputation and Only a Short While to Ruin it.
Trust and credibility is built slowly but can be lost almost instantly.

8. If You Don't Believe in Yourself, No One Else Will.
People don't respect or follow anyone who doesn't have confidence in themselves. I think the Universe tends to trust us to the degree we trust ourselves.

9. It Doesn't Take Guts to Quit.
Anyone can quit. And most people do—on their dreams and on themselves.

10. We Can Accomplish Anything We Want, Just Not EVERYTHING We Want.
It's too big a world. There are too many options, too many things and only a certain amount of time.

Action Point
What's YOUR answer? How would you answer the question: “What do you know for sure?”

Change of seasons 季節的改變分享

2007-02-01T12:28:00.000+08:00

季節的改變
The following pictures are of the same place but taken in different seasons...
下面的照片是同一個地點在不同季節所拍攝的照片。。。。。

Lessons on Life 生命的功課

There was a man who had four sons.
He wanted his sons to learn not to judge things too quickly.
So he sent them each on a quest, in turn,
to go and look at a pear tree that was a great distance away.
有一個人，他有四個兒子。
他希望他的兒子能夠學會不要太快對事情下結論，
所以，他依次給他四個孩子一個問題，
要他們分別出去遠方看一顆桃子樹。

The first son went in the winter, the second in the spring,
the third in summer, and the youngest son in the fall.
大兒子在冬天前往，二兒子在春天，
三兒子在夏天，小兒子則是在秋天前往。

When they had all gone and come back,
he called them together to describe what they had seen.
The first son said that the tree was ugly, bent, and twisted.
當他們都前去也都返家之後，
他把他們一起叫到跟前形容他們所看到的情景，
大兒子說那棵數很醜、枯槁、扭曲。

The second son said no it was covered with green buds
and full of promise.
二兒子則說，不是這樣子，
這棵樹被青青的嫩芽所覆蓋，充滿了盼望。

The third son disagreed; he said it was laden with blossoms
that smelled so sweet and looked so beautiful,
it was the most graceful thing he had ever seen.
三兒子不同意，他說樹上花朵綻放、充滿香氣，
看起來十分美麗，這美景事他從來不曾見到過的。

The last son disagreed with all of them;
he said it was ripe and drooping with fruit,
full of life and fulfillment.
小兒子不同意他們三人的說法。
他說樹上結滿了果子、累累下垂。
充滿了生命果子與豐收。

The man then explained to his sons that they were all right,
because they had each seen but only one season in the tree's life.
這個人就對他四個兒子說：你們都是正確的。
因為你們四個人是在這棵樹的四個不同季節前往，
並且只看到其中一個季節的風景。

He told them that you cannot judge a tree, or a person,
by only one season, and that the essence of who
they are and the pleasure, joy, and love that come from
that life can only be measured at the end,
when all the seasons are up.
他告訴兒子們不可用一個季節的風景來評斷一棵樹或是一個人，
關於構成一個人是怎樣的一個人的要件，還有一個人生命的
歡愉、喜樂、愛，只能在他生命的盡頭時候來做衡量。

If you give up when it's winter,
you will miss the promise of your spring,
the beauty of your summer, fulfillment of your fall.
當你在冬天時候就放棄，
你就會錯過你生命春天的盼望、夏天的美麗、秋天的收成。

Don't let the pain of one season destroy the joy of all the rest.
不要讓一個季節的痛苦毀掉其他季節的喜樂。

Don't judge life by one difficult season.
Persevere through the difficult patches and better times
are sure to come some time or later.
不要因為一個痛苦的季節就對人生下結論，
持守忍耐度過這段艱難，美好的日子將在不久之後來到。

The Marriage Partner GuideBook

2007-01-31T16:38:00.000+08:00

A HAPPY DISPOSITION
Look for a happy, optimistic person. Find someone who has a sense of humor and can laugh at himself/herself... True happiness springs from a contented heart. Beware the person who is only happy when you are around. You're going to get tired of being responsible for another person's happiness.
You could end up feeling guilty when the person slips into bouts of depression. True happiness is a part of a person's character, regardless of the circumstances.

THOUGHTFULNESS
How does your date treat his parents and yours? Chances are you'll get treated very much the same way. Does he see things that need to be done and offer to help? Or does he put his own needs first?
Manners are important - and they seldom get better after marriage.

NOT EASILY ANGERED
Temper outbursts can be the symptom of internal hostility, which is often repressed during courtship as a person is trying hard to be on his best behavior... Take seriously any outburst you observe, and check with others who have known this person in different situations to see if they have noticed this trait... The way a woman treats her younger brother may be an indication of how she will treat her husband.

Be leery of the person who has not learned to express his anger in words and instead merely harbors angry feelings in his heart. Going silent and withdrawing from a loved one because of anger is unhealthy and damaging to the relationship... Be sure you date a person long enough to observe how easily he or she becomes angry and how these feelings are expressed. Ask yourself, "Is this what I want to live with for a lifetime?"

WILLING TO SOLVE PROBLEMS
It's almost impossible to solve relationship problems by yourself. Marry someone who will be honest enough to admit being wrong, who doesn't have a habit of blaming others...

PURITY
Purity is not just an old-fashioned virtue. It's just safer to date someone who hasn't played around... At the same time you should not hold it against a person for past sexual involvement. You cannot always judge a person's true purity by virginity alone... Mind purity is equally important. Is your date pure in his thoughts and speech, as well as behavior? What jokes does he tell? What music does she listen to? What movies does he watch? What books or magazines does she read? Are they pure or suggestive? Mind pollution can lead to disrespect of the opposite sex.

TRUTHFUL
Too often couples play games when they are becoming acquainted... playing games in a relationship is a form of dishonesty. Marriage isn't a game. It's a serious lifetime commitment. Search your own feelings and share honestly during your courtship. Be You.

GOOD HEALTH HABITS
No one wants to marry a slob - and few do... Bad health habits are difficult to break. That is why it's best to look for a person who has already established positive health practices.

ACCEPTS RESPONSIBILITY
Here are some questions that might detect irresponsibility: ... Does she see things that need to be done and do them? Does he volunteer to help? Does she get to places on time? Does he make lame excuses to get out of responsibilities? Does she take her talents seriously and work to improve her skills? Does he take care of his car and other personal possessions? ... Think about it. Just how responsible is the person you are dating?

GOOD SENSE OF SELF-WORTH
Often in a dating relationship, individuals with poor self-esteem glean a sense of value from the person they're with. They become dependent on their partners to make them feel good... If you don't want to live a lifetime having to tiptoe around a person's fragile ego or having to hold yourself back for fear of how your spouse will react, then be careful not to get emotionally involved with someone who has a low sense of self-worth.

LIKES CHILDREN
Before marriage you may discuss children, but unless you're around a lot of children and can observe your date interacting with them in a wide variety of situations, you really don't have any idea about how he or she may discipline your children in the future. Seldom do both parents totally agree on how a child should be raised. Finding someone who at least likes children is an advantage.

ACCEPTS YOU JUST THE WAY YOU ARE
True love is unconditional love. The important question to ask is, "Do I love her faults?" Only when you can truly love the total person, including all the points and bad habits, can you accept your mate for who he is and not secretly wish you could change him.

WILLING TO GROW
Good marriage partners grow together. They encourage each other to maximize their knowledge, skills and potential... Make sure the person you date seriously is the kind of person who is open to learning and will make changes when changes need to be made.

AFFECTIONATE
The ability to express love through words and actions is vital for an intimate love relationship... look for tender words, acts and touches that are given naturally and "appropriately" through

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'As long as we have memories,

yesterday remains,

As long as we have hope,

tomorrow awaits,

As long as we have friendship,

each day is never a waste.'

" The journey of a thousand miles

begins with a single step."

- Chinese proverb

Reality of Love

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After a while you learn the subtle difference between holding a hand and chaining a soul

And you learn that love does not mean leaning and company does not always mean security

And you begin to learn that kisses are not contracts and presents are not promises

And you begin to accept your defeats with your head up and your eyes ahead with the grace of an adult, not the grief of a child

And you learn to build all your roads on today because tomorrow's ground is too uncertain for plans, and futures have a way of falling down in flight

After a while you learn that even sunshine burns if you get too much

So you plant your own garden and decorate your own soul instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers

And you learn that you really can endure that you really are strong and you really do have worth

And you learn and you learn with every goodbye you learn.

Why Does Women Cry??

2007-01-29T15:18:00.000+08:00

Women are just very special and have you ever ponder why does women cry???

Gals - you should feel proud for being a woman after reading this.
Guys - don't belittle we women and don't think we women are good to be bullied ok....

One day, a young boy asked his Mom. "Why are you crying?"

"Because I'm a woman," she told him.

I don't understand," he said.

His Mom just hugged him and said, "and you never will, but that's okay."

Later the little boy asked his father, "Why does Mom seem to cry for no reason?"

"All women cry for no reason" was all his Dad could say.

The little boy grew up and became a man, still wondering why women cry.

Finally, he put in a call to God. When God got back to him, he asked,
"God, why do women cry so easily?"

God answered, "When I made woman, I decided she had to be special. I made her shoulders strong enough to carry the weight of the world, yet her arms gentle enough to give comfort. I gave her the inner strength to endure childbirth and the rejection that many times will come, even from her own children.

"I gave her a hardness that allows her to keep going and take care of family and friends, even when everyone else gives up, through sickness and fatigue, without complaining.

"I gave her the sensitivity to love her children under any and all circumstances, even when her child has hurt her badly. She has the very special power to make a child's boo-boo feel better and to quell a teenager's anxieties and fears.

"I gave her strength to care for her husband, despite faults, and I fashioned her from his rib to protect his heart. I gave her wisdom to know that a good husband never hurts his wife but sometimes tests her strengths and her resolve to stand beside him unfalteringly.

"For all of this hard work, I also gave her a tear to shed. It is hers to use whenever needed and is her only weakness. When you see her cry, tell her how much you love her and all she does for everyone. And even though she may still cry, you will have made her heart feel good. She is special!"

Cheers for the great women in our lives!

Words of Wisdom for the Day

2007-01-28T06:00:00.000+08:00

When something happens to you, good or bad, consider what it means.
There's a purpose to life's events, to teach you how to laugh more or not to cry too hard. all you can do is be someone who can be loved, the rest is up to the person to realise your worth.

The measure of love is when you love without measure. It's better to lose your pride to the one you love, than to lose the one you love because of pride.

We spend too much time looking for the right person to love or finding fault with those we already love, when instead we should be perfecting the love we give.

When you truly care for someone, you don't look for faults, you don't look for answers, you don't look for mistakes. Instead, you fight the mistakes, you accept the faults, and you overlook the excuses.

Never abandon an old friend. You will never find one who can take his place. Friendship is like wine, it gets better as it grows older.

Remember the five simple rules to be happy :
1. Free your heart from hatred.
2. Free your mind from worries.
3. Live simply.
4. Give more.
5. Expect less.

No one can go back and make a brand new start. Anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending.

Good Friends

2007-01-27T00:01:00.000+08:00

Food for the soul

In kindergarten your idea of a good friend was the person who let you have the red crayon when all that was left was the ugly black one.

In primary one, your idea of a good friend was the person who went to the washroom with you and held your hand as you walked through the scary halls.

In primary two, your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you stand up to the class bully.

In primary three, your idea of a good friend was the person who shared their lunch with you when you forgot yours, you left on the bus.

In primary four, your idea of a good friend was the person who let you copy the social studies homework that you forgotten to do the previous night.

In primary five, your idea of a good friend was the person who saved a seat on the back of the bus for you.

In primary six, your idea of a good friend was someone who comforted you and lent their shoulder to you when you received your PSLE results.

In secondary one, your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you to pass the ''love letter'' to your crush/stead.

In secondary two, your idea of a good friend was the person who comforted you when you broke up with your boy/girl friend, saying that the person is not even worth of your tears.

In secondary three, your idea of a good friend was the person who would come over to your house and help you decide on which clothes to wear on your first date, although she had her date waiting for her.

In secondary four, your idea of a good friend was the person who would help you in the "O" levels' examination when you had chicken pox and on the examination day, you recovered but your friend had the disease and had to stay home for a week.

Now, your idea of a good friend is still the person who gives you the better of the two choices, holds your hand when you're scared, helps you fight off those who try to take advantage of you, thinks of you at times when you are not there, reminds you of what you have forgotten, helps you put the past behind you but understands when you need to hold on to it a little longer, stays with you so that you have confidence, goes out of their way to make time for you, helps you clear up your mistakes, helps you deal with pressure from others, smiles for you when they are sad, helps you become a better person, and most importantly loves you!

Pass on to those friends of the past and those of the future... and those you have met along the way... [crying yet? oh there's more]

Thank you for being a friend.
No matter where we go or who we become, never forget who helped us get there.
There's never a wrong time to pick up a phone or send a message telling your friends how much you miss them or how much you love them.
You know who you are, pass it on to someone who you want to remind.

So send this to all your friends and maybe those who aren't but just watch and see who sends it back. If you love someone, tell them.

Remember always to say what you mean.
Never be afraid to express yourself.
Take this opportunity to tell someone what they mean to you. Seize the day and have no regrets.
Most importantly, stay close to your friends and family, for they have helped make you the person that you are today and are what it's all about anyway.

Pass this along to your friends.
Let it make a difference in your day and theirs.
The difference between expressing love and having regrets is that the regrets may stay around forever.

Sumiko Tan's Article

2007-01-26T15:45:00.000+08:00

Too old to make new friends? - by Sumiko Tan

SUNNY, one of my dearest friends at work, will leave the company next month for greener pastures.

He is not my first friend from the office to say goodbye. Over the years, there have been a handful of colleagues who became friends. In recent times, at least three others have also left.

When Sunny told me that he was leaving, I moaned: 'With you gone, I will have hardly any friends left in the office!'

Which set me thinking: At what point does an acquaintance or colleague become a friend? And, to take a step back, what is this concept called 'friendship' anyway? Indeed, what makes you click with one person and form a friendship with him, but not some other?

If a friend is defined as someone I feel completely comfortable calling up at 3 am to bail me out of trouble - and Sunny will do so - then, alas, I don't have that many friends. Other than family members, I can count on just one female friend and three, at best four, male friends. But then, maybe that's plenty.

As someone once said, one friend in a lifetime is much, two are many, three are hardly possible.

FRIENDSHIPS are different from relationships - and thank goodness for that.

You can be great chums with your partner, of course, but a relationship is so much more complex. It is not only about that enrapturing feeling called love, but - if you are unlucky - also a host of murky emotions like jealousy, resentment, anger, pain and despair.

Friendship is simpler and fills you, mostly, with harmless Type B emotions - kindliness, fondness, warmth and cordiality.

With a lover, you make demands and have expectations. But with a friend, you're cool. You don't really owe him anything, or have to explain much, because, ultimately, you demand nothing more from each other than pleasant company and an occasional listening ear.

Love, I read somewhere, is blind, but friendship closes its eyes. How true.

The older I get, the more I value friends. Yet, ironically, I find that it is now not only harder for me to maintain old friendships, but also to form new ones.

When I was in school, friendships came naturally. My friends and I moved in a pack - we ate, studied, gossiped and partied together. We exchanged secrets and gifts, sent cards and gave treats.

Our friendships were firm, and sweet. Coming from an all-girls school, I didn't get to make male friends until I was in junior college. Initial shyness aside, I found that it was possible to have a platonic relationship with a guy, and that they made equally good friends.

By the time I went to university, I was already attached, and had little time to make new friends, male or female.

Then came working life. Through sheer proximity and the amount of time spent together, it was inevitable that some colleagues became more than co workers. What is it that allows you to become friends with some people, and not others? Shared experience is one requisite, and the sharper it is, the better.

For Sunny and I, it was our years spent pounding the same beat, politics. That X factor called 'chemistry' is another, and I suppose this explains how you can be firm friends with people who are very different from you.THE saddest thing about friendship is that it can die. It doesn't come with a lifelong guarantee.

Distance is one killer. Unless you are diligent in keeping in touch with a friend, being far away can drive a wedge in your relationship. Changes in circumstance is another. It has been said that a friend in power is a friend lost, and I have found this to be true. When a friend moves up in life, he will become too busy for you, while you don't want to risk rejection by trying to keep in contact with him. Marriages have also caused friendships to fade as your spouse might not take to your friends. Then there are friendships that die because they have simply run their course.

I had a close female friend whom I had known since we were both 17. About four years back, after 16 years of keeping in touch through the mail, long hours on the phone and giggly lunches, our friendship died. Just like that.

There was no quarrel, no disagreement, no underlying unhappiness or animosity or hurts. The plug was just pulled.

The last time we saw each other was at lunch - in fact, it was to celebrate her birthday. We were our usual loud selves.

After the meal, we gave our usual hug, said our usual cheery goodbyes and made our usual promise to meet again.

We didn't call each other for weeks (which was normal, as we were both busy), then months (which began to feel a bit strange, but nothing to be alarmed about), then, yes, years (by then, it was too late to resuscitate the friendship).

We did talk once, last year, when my father died and she called. I was grateful to hear from her and I know it took a lot for her to pick up the phone after so many years. I wish nothing but the best for her, and am always glad to hear from mutual friends that she is well. Yet, I know that if we were to bump into each other today, it would feel awkward.

If I value friendship so much, why don't I just go forth and make more friends? It is easier said than done. People my age and older are busy with careers and family. I have fewer things in common with those younger. But the fault is mine. At my age, I lack the energy and enthusiasm. Starting and maintaining a friendship might be far less arduous than a relationship, but it still requires effort. Do I have the strength for that on top of the other demands in my life?

So, next month, I say goodbye to Sunny and I am left with one friend fewer at work. British writer Virginia Woolf once said: 'I have lost friends, some by death - others by sheer inability to cross the street.'

Should I spot Sunny - and my few remaining friends - on the street, I trust I can muster the energy to walk up to them and say 'hi'. For, really, that is all it takes to keep a friendship alive.

What is life?

2007-01-25T05:33:00.000+08:00

On the very first day of the world, God created the cow.
He said to the cow."Ah Gu (cow), today I have created you!
Your job is to go to the field with the farmer all day long.
You will provide the energy to pull things!
You will also provide milk for people to drink!
You are to work all day under the sun!In return, you will only eat grass.
For that, you will have a life span of 50 years."

Ah Gu objected.
" What.. I work all day in the sunand I get only to eat grass!
On top of that, I have to give my milk away!
This is tough and you want me to live 50 years!
I'll take 20 and you can have the remaining 30 years back!"
God agreed.

On the next day, God created the dog.
He said to the dog."Ah Kow (dog), I have created you for a purpose.
You are to sit all day by the door of your master's house!
Should anyone come in, you are to bark at them!
In return, you will eat your master's leftovers.
I'll give you a life span of 20 years."

Ah Kow objected.
" What.. I have to sit by the door all dayand will need to bark at people, and what do I get...LEFTOVERS...
This isn't right, I'll take 10 and you can have the remaining10 years back!
"God agreed again.

On the third day, God created the monkey.
He said to the monkey."Lao Kao (monkey), your job is to entertain people.
You will make them laugh, act stupid and make faces!
You will also do somersaults and swing on trees to amaze them.In return, you will get to eat bananas and peanuts.
For that, I'll give you 20 years to live."

Naturally the monkey objected.
"This is ridiculous, I gotta make faces and make people laugh at even come to the part about the trees and somersaults.
Tell you what, I'll give 10 years of my life to thank you for myexistence and I'll take 10. What do you think?"
God agreed again.

On the forth day, God created humans.
God said to the man."You are my best piece of work, for that, you will only need to sleep, eat, sleep, play, eat, sleep again and do nothing else.
You will get to eat all the best things and play with the best toys.
All you need to do is enjoy all your life.
For this kindda of life, I'll give you 20 years."

Just like the rest, the man objected.
"What, all I need to do is relax and enjoy myself and I have only 20 years to live?
Tell you what, you've 30 years back from Ah Gu, 10 years from Ah Kow and another 10 from Lao Kao and you probably don't know what to do with all those lifes.
Why not I take them all and I'll have 70 years to live?"

God being such good natured, agreed with a smile.....

AND THAT IS WHY.....

We eat, sleep, play and enjoy for the first 20 years of our lives when we are growing up.
Work like a cow for the next 30 to raise our family.
Sit outside the door and bark at people for the next 10 when weare retired.
And finally, we make faces and perform monkey tricks to entertain our grandchildren for the final 10 years.

GET IT?

Friends

2007-01-24T07:28:00.000+08:00

Many people will walk in and out of your life,
But only true friends will leave footprints in your heart.

To handle yourself, use your head;
To handle others, use your heart.
Anger is only one letter short of danger.

If someone betrays you once, it is his fault;
If he betrays you twice, it is your fault

Great minds discuss ideas;
Average minds discuss events;
Small minds discuss people.

He who loses money, loses much;
He, who loses a friend, loses much more;
He, who loses faith, loses all.

Beautiful young people are accidents of nature,
But beautiful old people are works of art.

Learn from the mistakes of others.
You can't live long enough to make them all yourself.

Friends, you and me....
You brought another friend....
And then there were 3.

We started our group....
Our circle of friends....
And like that circle....
There is no beginning or end..

Yesterday is histotry.
Tomorrow is mystery.
Today is a gift. (That's why it is called "present")

Whenever there is a Friendship Week, show your friends how much you care.

Send this to everyone you consider a FRIEND. If it comes back to you, then you'll know you have a circle of friends.

To be happy...

2007-01-23T05:09:00.000+08:00

We convince ourselves that life will be better after we get married, have a baby, then another.

Then we are frustrated that the kids aren't old enough and we'll be more content when they are.

After that, we're frustrated that we have teenagers to deal with. We will certainly be happy when they are out of that stage.

We tell ourselves that our life will be complete when our spouse gets his or her act together, when we get a nicer car, are we able to go on a nice vacation, or when we retire.

The truth is, there's no better time to be happy than right now.

If not now, when?

Your life will always be filled with challenges. It's best to admit this to yourself and decide to be happy anyway. Happiness is the way.

So, treasure every moment that you have and treasure it more because you shared it with special people, special enough to spend your time with......

So, stop waiting....
* until your car or home is paid off
* until you get a new car or home
* until your kids leave the house
* until you finish school
* until you lose 10 lbs.
* until you gain 10 lbs.
* until you get married
* until you get a divorce
* until you have kids
* until you retire
* until summer
* until spring
* until winter
* until you die

There is no better time than right now to be happy.
Happiness is a journey, not a destination.
So, work like you don't need money,
Love like you've never been hurt,
And dance like no one's watching!!!.

If you want to brighten someone's day, share this article to someone special, I just did....................

Love is ...

2007-01-22T12:28:00.001+08:00

To all my friends,

To My Friends Who Are........... SINGLE
Love is like a butterfly. The more you chase it,the more it eludes you. But if you just let it fly, it will come to you when you least expect it. Love can make you happy but often it hurts, but love's only special when you give it to someone who is really worth it. So take your time and choose the best.

To My Friends Who Are............ NOT SO SINGLE
Love isn't about becoming somebody else's "perfectperson." It's about finding someone who helps you become the best person you can be.

To My Friends Who Are............ PLAYBOY/GIRL TYPE
Never say "I love you" if you don't care. Nevertalk about feelings if they aren't there. Never touch a life if you mean to break a heart. Never look in theeye when all you do is lie. The cruelest thing a guy can do to a girl is to let her fall in love when he doesn't intend to catch her fall and it works both ways...

To My Friends Who Are............ MARRIED
Love is not about "it's your fault", but "I'm sorry."Not "where are you", but "I'm right here." Not "howcould you", but "I understand." Not "I wish youwere",but "I'm thankful you are."

To My Friends Who Are............ ENGAGED
The true measure of compatibility is not the years spent together but how good you are for each other.

To My Friends Who Are............ HEARTBROKEN
Heartbreaks last as long as you want and cut as deepas you allow them to go. The challenge is not how tosurvive heartbreaks but to learn from them.

To My Friends Who Are............ NAIVE
How to be in love: Fall but don't stumble, be consistent but not too persistent, share and never be unfair, understand and try not to demand, and get hurt but never keep the pain.

To My Friends Who Are............POSSESSIVE
It breaks your heart to see the one you love happy with someone else but it's more painful to know thatthe one you love is unhappy with you.

To My Friends Who Are............ AFRAID TO CONFESS
Love hurts when you break up with someone. It hurts even more when someone breaks up with you. But love hurts the most when the person you love has no idea how you feel.

To My Friends Who Are............ STILL HOLDING ON
A sad thing about life is when you meet someone and fall in love, only to find out in the end that it was never meant to be and that you have wasted yearson someone who wasn't worth it. If he isn't worth itnow he's not going to be worth it a year or 10 yearsfrom now. Let go.....

TO ALL MY FRIENDS.......
My wish for you is a man/women whose love is honest, strong, mature, never-changing, uplifting, protective,encouraging, rewarding and unselfish.

The Seven Wonders of the World

2007-01-21T10:32:00.000+08:00

A group of students were asked to list what they thought were the present Seven Wonders of the World.

Though there were some disagreements, the following got the most votes:
1. Egypt's Great Pyramids
2. Taj Mahal
3. Grand Canyon
4. Panama Canal
5. Empire State Building
6. St. Peter's Basilica
7. China's Great Wall

While gathering the votes, the teacher noted that one quiet student hadn't turned in her paper yet. So she asked the girl if she was having trouble with her list.

The girl replied, "Yes, a little. I couldn't quite make up my mind because there were so many."

The teacher said, "Well, tell us what you have, and maybe we can help."

The girl hesitated, then read, "I think the Seven Wonders of the World are:
1. to touch
2. to taste
3. to see
4. to hear
(She hesitated a little, and then added:)
5. to feel
6. to laugh
7. and to love."

The room was so full of silence you could have heard a pin drop.

Those things we overlook as simple and ordinary are truly wondrous.

A gentle reminder - that the most precious things in life cannot be bought. I hope your life is filled with the world's Seven Wonders.

To somebody, you would love the 7 Wonders of all human beings:
to be considerate in all circumstances
to compromise without personal gain
to give away freely
to take good care of self & others
to try & understand
to forgive unconditionally
and to appreciate sincerely!

Best of luck for these 7 Wonders of the Universe!

All the best,
xxx

Fact of Life

2007-01-20T14:09:00.000+08:00

This story is interesting, perhaps we should stop & ponder for a few minutes

What are we really looking for in life?

One morning I wasted nearly an hour watching a tiny ant carry a huge feather across my back terrace. Several times it was confronted by obstacles in its path and after a momentary pause it would make the necessary detour. At one point the ant had to negotiate a crack in the concrete about 10mm wide. After brief contemplation the ant laid the feather over the crack, walked across it and picked up the feather on the other side then continued on its way.

I was fascinated by the ingenuity of this ant, one of God's smallest creatures. It served to reinforce the miracle of creation. Here was a minute insect, lacking in size yet equipped with a brain to reason, explore, discover and overcome. But this ant, like the two-legged co-residents of this planet, also shares human failings.

After some time the ant finally reached its destination - a flower bed at the end of the terrace and a small hole that was the entrance to its underground home. And it was here that the ant finally met its match. How could that large feather possibly fit down that small hole? Of course it couldn't. So the ant, after all this trouble and exercising great ingenuity, overcoming problems all along the way, just abandoned the feather and went home. The ant had not thought the problem through before it began its epic journey and in the end the feather was nothing more than a burden.

Isn't life like that! We worry about our family, we worry about money or the lack of it, we worry about work, about where we live, about all sorts of things. These are all burdens - the things we pick up along life's path and lug them around the obstacles and over the crevasses that life will bring, only to find that at the destination they are useless and we can't take them with us.

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For where your treasure is,

there your heart will be also.
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Inspiration - one who NEVER QUIT

2007-01-19T10:28:00.000+08:00

In 1962, four nervous young musicians played their first record audition for the executives of the Decca recording Company.
The executives were not impressed. While turning down this group of musicians, one executive said, "We don't like their sound. Groups of guitars are on the way out."

The group was called The Beatles.

-o0o-

In 1944, Emmeline Snively, director of the Blue Book Modelling Agency, told modelling hopeful Norma Jean Baker, "You'd better learn secretarial work or else get married."

She went on and became Marilyn Monroe.

-o0o-

In 1954, Jimmy Denny, manager of the Grand Ole Opry, Fired a singer after one performance. He told him, "You ain't goin' nowhere....son. You ought to go back to drivin' a truck."

He went on to become the most popular singer in America named Elvis Presley.

-o0o-

When Alexander Graham Bell invented the telephone in 1876, it did not ring off the hook with calls from potential backers. After making a demonstration call, President Rutherford Hayes said, "That's an amazing invention, but who would ever want to use one of them?" (??????)

-o0o-

When Thomas Edison invented the light bulb, he tried over 2000 experiments before he got it to work. A young reporter asked him how it felt to fail so many times. He said, "I never failed once. I invented the light bulb. It just happened to be a 2000-step process."

-o0o-

In the 1940s, another young inventor named Chester Carlson took his idea to 20 corporations, including some of the biggest in the country.They all turned him down. In 1947 - after seven long years of rejections!
He finally got a tiny company in Rochester, New York, the Haloid company, to purchase the rights to his invention an electrostatic paper-copying process. Haloid became Xerox Corporation we know today.

-o0o-

Wilma Rudolph was the 20th of 22 children. She was born prematurely and her survival was doubtful. When she was 4 years old, she contacted double pneumonia and scarlet fever, which left her with a paralysed left leg. At age 9, she removed the metal leg brace she had been dependent on and began to walk without it. By 13 she had developed a rhythmic walk, which doctors said was a miracle. That same year she decided to become a runner. She entered a race and came in last. For the next few years every race she entered, she came in last. Everyone told her to quit, but she kept on running. One day she actually won a race. And then another. From then on she won every race she entered. Eventually this little girl, who was told she would never walk again, went on to win three Olympic gold medals.

-o0o-

Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experiences of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, vision cleared, ambition inspired and success achieved. You gain strength, experience and confidence by every experience where you really stop to look fear in the face....

You must do the thing you cannot do. And remember, the finest steel gets sent through the hottest furnace.

Champion is not one who never fails, but one who NEVER QUITS !

"To send a letter is a good way to go somewhere without moving anything but your heart"

- Phyllis Theroux

Engineer Vs Manager

2007-01-18T09:28:00.000+08:00

Communications humour ... facts of life

A man piloting a hot air balloon realizes he is lost. He spots a man below, lowers the balloon and shouts:

"Excuse me, can you help me? I promised my friend I would meet him half an hour ago, but I don't know where I am."

The man below says: "Yes, I can help you."

"You are in a hot air balloon, hovering approximately 30 feet above avacant field. You are between 40 and 42 degrees N. latitude, and between58 and 60 degrees W. longitude. There is a 5 knot Southwest wind and theair temperature is 75 Degrees Fahrenheit."

"You must be an engineer," says the balloonist.

"Yes, I am," replies the man. "How did you know?"

"Well," says the balloonist, "everything you have told me is technically correct, but I have no idea what to make of your information, and the factis I am still lost. You have yet to help me in a meaningful way."

The man below says, "You must be a manager."

"I am," replies the balloonist, "but how did you know?"

The Engineer replies, "You don't know where you are or how to achieve your objective. You made a promise to someone with no idea of how to keep it and now that you are in a desperate position, you expect me to solve your problem. Even more revealing is that you are in the exact same position you were in before we met, but have deluded yourself into believing that your situation is somehow my fault."

Quotes

2007-01-17T00:26:00.000+08:00

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Going ape?

2007-01-16T09:28:00.000+08:00

Primate Committee Thinking Experiment
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Start with a cage containing five apes. In the cage, hang a banana on a string and put stairs under it. Before long, an ape will go to the stairs and start to climb towards the Banana. As soon as he touches the stairs, spray all of the apes with cold water.

After a while, another ape makes an attempt with the same result-all the apes are sprayed with cold water. Turn off the cold water.

If, later, another ape tries to climb the stairs, the other apes will try to prevent it even though no water sprays them.

Now, remove one ape from the cage and replace it with a new one.

The New ape sees the banana and wants to climb the stairs. To his horror, all of the other apes attack him. After another attempt and attack, he knows that if he tries to climb the stairs, he will be assaulted.

Next, remove another of the original five apes and replace it with a New one. The newcomer goes to the stairs and is attacked. The previous Newcomer takes part in the punishment with enthusiasm. Again, replace a third original ape with a new one. The new one makes it to the stairs and is attacked as well. Two of the four apes that beat him have no idea why they were not permitted to climb the stairs, or why they are participating in the beating of the newest ape.

After replacing the fourth and fifth original apes, all the apes which have been sprayed with cold water have been replaced. Nevertheless, no ape ever again approaches the stairs. Why not?

"Because that's the way it's always been around here."

Sound familiar?

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life is REALLY LARGER than what you think.

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When a Goal Becomes a MUST

2007-01-15T08:18:00.000+08:00

[email from Adam Khoo sent on 15 Jan 2007]

People who achieve their goals are those who are truly committed to get what they want. To them, their goals are not a mere wish or a weak desire. They are an absolute must.

When a goal becomes a must, we operate from a very different frame of mind. When something becomes an absolute must, we will do whatever it takes to get it (within ethical, legal & moral boundaries of course).

When something becomes a must, we will stretch well beyond our comfort zones and keep changing our strategy as many times as it takes.

Time and again, you will notice that people who succeed are those who show this level of commitment. In fact I believe that failures, setbacks and frustrations are life's ways of testing our level of commitment.

Most people fail this test by quitting when they hit major obstacles. The few who succeed do so because they do whatever it takes to overcome obstacles.

I truly believe that when something becomes a must for you, and you are willing to do whatever it takes, you will always find a way!

For most people, achieving success in anything is rarely a must. They would like to lose weight, but it is not a must. They would love to make more money, but they won't die without it. They wish they could take charge of their lives, but they could live without it.

The moment something becomes a 'should' instead of a 'must', you will rarely achieve it. You will always find a way to put it off or to quit the moment you meet resistance.

People like Sylvester Stallone, Steven Spielberg or a Donald Trump who achieve success are not born more focused, more disciplined or luckier than the average person.

What makes them different is that they make their goals a must for themselves. They are not willing to accept anything less than the best.

So let me ask you a question.

Are your dreams and goals an absolute must or are they just weak desires that you can live without? Have you been truly committed to do whatever it takes in the past or have you quit and given yourself excuses along the way?

If you haven't then it's time you take yourself and your goals seriously because if success isn't a must for you then there is no way that you can become successful. Because success only reserves itself for people who want it bad enough to make a MUST!

To Your Success,

Adam Khoo
www.SecretsOfSelf-MadeMillionaires.com

10 Secrets

2007-01-14T08:28:00.000+08:00

The first secret - the power of thought.
Love begins with our thoughts. We become what we think about.
Loving thoughts create loving experiences and loving relationships.
Affirmations can change our beliefs and thoughts about ourselves
and others. If we want to love someone,
we need to consider their needs and desires.
Thinking about your ideal partner will help you recognize her
when you meet her.

The second secret - the power of respect.
You cannot love anyone or anything unless you first respect them.
The first person you need to respect is yourself.
To begin to gain self-respect ask yourself,
"What do I respect about myself?"
To gain respect for others, even those you may dislike,
ask yourself "What do I respect about them?"

The third secret - the power of giving.
If you want to receive love, all you have to do is give it!
The more love you give, the more you will receive.
To love is to give of yourself, freely and unconditionally.
Practice random acts of kindness.
Before committing to a relationship ask not
what the other person will be able to give to you,
but rather what will you be able to give them.
The secret formula of a happy, lifelong, loving relationship
is to always focus on what you can give instead of what you can take.

The fourth secret - the power of friendship.
To find a true love, you must first find a true friend.
Love does not consist of gazing into each other's eyes,
but rather looking outward together in the same direction.
To love someone completely you must love them for who they are,
not what they look like.
Friendship is the soil through which love's seeds grow.
If you want to bring love into a relationship,
you must first bring friendship.

The fifth secret - the power of touch.
Touch is one of the most powerful expressions of love,
breaking downbarriers and bonding relationships.
Touch changes our physical and emotional states and
makes us more receptive to love.

The sixth secret - the power of letting go.
If you love something, let it free.
If it comes back to you it's yours, if it doesn't it never was.
Even in a loving relationship, people need their own space.
If we want to learn to love, we must first learn to forgive and
let go of past hurts and grievances.
Love means letting go of our fears, prejudices, egos and conditions.
"Today I let go of all my fears, the past has no power over me - today is the beginning of a new life."

The seventh secret - the power of communication.
When we learn to communicate openly and honestly, life changes.
To love someone is to communicate with them.
Let the people you love know that you love them and appreciate them.
Never be afraid to say those three magic words: "I Love You."
Never let an opportunity pass to praise someone.
Always leave someone you love with a loving word -it could be the last time you see them.
If you were about to die but could make telephone calls to
the people you loved, who would you call,
what would you say and ... why are you waiting?

The eighth secret - the power of commitment.
If you want to have love in abundance,
you must be committed to it, and that
commitment will be reflected in your thoughts and actions.
Commitment is the true test of love.
If you want to have loving relationships,
you must be committed to loving relationships.
When you are committed to someone or something,
quitting is never an option. Commitment distinguishes a fragile
relationship from a strong one.

The ninth secret - the power of passion.
Passion ignites love and keeps it alive.
Lasting passion does not come through physical attraction alone,
it comes from deep commitment, enthusiasm, interest and excitement.
Passion can be recreated by recreating past experiences
when you felt passionate. Spontaneity and surprises produce passion.
The essence of love and happiness are the same;
all we need to do is to live each day with passion.

The tenth secret - the power of trust.
Trust is essential in all loving relationships.
Without it one person becomes suspicious, anxious and fearful
and the other person feels trapped and emotionally suffocated.
You cannot love someone completely unless you trust them completely.
Act as if your relationship with the person you love will never end.
One of the ways you can tell whether a person is right for you is to ask
yourself, "Do I trust them completely and unreservedly?"
If the answer is "no", think carefully before making a commitment.

THE PARADOX

2007-01-13T05:43:00.000+08:00

The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings, but shorter tempers; wider freeways, but narrower view points.

We spend more, but have less; we buy more, but enjoy it less.

We have bigger houses and smaller families; more conveniences, but less time.

We have more degrees, but less sense; more knowledge, but less judgement; more experts, but more problems; more medicine, but less welness.

We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values.

We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often.

We learned how to make a living, but not a life.

We've added years to life, not life to years. we've been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet the new neighbor.

We've conquered outer space, but not inner space; we've cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul; we've split the atom, but not our prejudice; we have higher incomes, but lower morals; we've become long on quantity, but short on quality.

These are the times of tall men, and short character; steep profits, and shallow relationships.

These are the times of world peace, but domestic warfare; more leisure, but less fun; more kinds of food but less nutrition.

These are the days of two incomes, but more divorce; of fancier houses, but broken homes.

It is a time when there is much in the show window and nothing in the stockroom; a time when technology can bring this letter to you, and a time when you can choose either to make a difference or just ignore

The Power of Words

2007-01-12T08:29:00.000+08:00

A group of frogs were traveling through the woods, and two of them fell into a deep pit.

All the other frogs gathered around the pit. When they saw how deep the pit was, they told the two frogs that they were as good as dead.

The two frogs ignored the comments and tried to jump up out of the pit with all of their might. The other frogs kept telling them to stop, that they were as good as dead. Finally, one of the frogs took heed to what the other frogs were saying and gave up. He fell down and died. The other frog continued to jump as hard as he could.

Once again, the crowd of frogs yelled at him to stop the pain and just die. He jumped even harder and finally made it out. When he got out, the other frogs said, "Did you not hear us?" The frog explained to them that he was deaf. He thought they were encouraging him the entire time.

This story teaches two lessons:

1. There is power of life and death in the tongue. An encouraging word to someone who is down can lift them up and help them make it through the day.

2. A destructive word to someone who is down can be what it takes to kill them. Be careful of what you say. Speak life to those who cross your path. The power of words....it is sometimes hard to understand that an encouraging word can go such a long way. Anyone can speak words that tend to rob another of the spirit to continue in difficult times. Special is the individual who will take the time to encourage another.

Be Special to others.

Lend me your ears

2007-01-11T12:25:00.000+08:00

Hey, here's something to think about. Maybe you've seen this before, but have you THOUGHT about it??

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We are born with two eyes in front because we must not always look behind, but see what lies ahead, beyond ourselves.

We are born to have two ears - one left, one right so we can hear both sides, collect both the compliments and criticisms, to see which are right

We are born with a brain concealed in a skull then no matter how poor we are, we are still rich, for no one can steal what our brain contains, packing in more jewels and rings than you can think

We are born with two eyes, two ears , but one mouth for the mouth is a sharp weapon, it can hurt, flirt, kill remember our motto: talk less, listen and see more

We are born with only one heart, deep in our ribs.
It reminds us to appreciate and give love from deep within

Happiness isn't about what happens to us - it's about how we perceive what happens to us. It's the knack of finding a positive for every negative, and viewing a setback as a challenge. If we can just stop wishing for what we don't have, and start enjoying what we do have, our lives can be richer, more fulfilled and happier. The time to be happy is NOW.

Life's a "beach"!

2007-01-10T09:11:00.000+08:00

If you have food in the refrigerator, clothes on your back, a roof overhead and a place to sleep... you are richer than 75% of this world.

If you have money in the bank, in your wallet, and spare change in a dish someplace... you are among the top 8% of the world's wealthy.

If you woke up this morning with more health than illness... you are more blessed than the million who will not survive this week.

If you have never experienced the danger of battle, the loneliness of imprisonment, the agony of torture, or the pangs of starvation... you are ahead of 500 million people in the world.

If you can attend a church meeting without fear of harassment, arrest, torture, or death... you are more blessed than three billion people in the world.

If your parents are still alive and still married... you are very rare (even in the United States).

If you hold your head up with a smile on your face and are truly thankful... you are blessed because the majority can, but most do not.

If you can hold someone's hand, hug them or even touch them on the shoulder... you are blessed because you can offer healing touch.

If you can read this message, you have just received a double blessing in that someone was thinking of you, and furthermore, you are more blessed than over two billion people in the world who can't read at all. Count your blessings and pass this message along to remind others how blessed we all are.

The 6 Criteria of Powerful Goals

2007-01-09T09:02:00.000+08:00

[email from Adam Khoo sent on 08 Jan 2007]

To set powerful goals that drive you to manifest them into reality, you must set goals that have 6 criteria! You can remember this by the acronym SMSPDA. What does this stand for?

Specific. Your goals must be specific! A goal of losing weight or making more money is not powerful. You have to be specific like saying, ' I will lose 14 kg' or ' I will increase my income from $2,000 to $4,000 a month.'

Many people are afraid to commit to a specific figure because they are afraid that it will not be achieved. So instead, they set a very general goal or give themselves a range. Unfortunately, unspecific goals never get achieved because there is nothing clear to focus on.

When you set specific goal, you are then able to develop an effective strategy. When you set a goal of losing 14kg, you can then develop an effective strategy of the number of calories you can afford per meal, the number of calories to burn a week, the number of exercise sessions and how many kilograms to lose a month.

Even if you don't achieve the loss of 14kg, you can bet that you will get somewhere around that figure!

Measurable. Your goals must be measurable. Being healthy is NOT a measurable goal. Losing 14kg or having a body-fat ratio of 4.3% is measurable.

Most people never achieve their goals because they are not measurable enough. Again, when you make your goals measurable, your mind will have something definite to focus on!

Stretch. Puny, incremental goals will not excite and motivate you. As a result, you will probably not take the massive action necessary to achieve it.

However, when you set a huge, stretch goal that pushes you out of your comfort zone (like doubling your income in 6 months), the thought generates a lot more excitement and energy within us.

Setting stretch goals may seem 'unrealistic' at the time, but it forces you to think out of the box for new strategies to make it happen. Remember that everything is possible, it is only a question of how!

Purpose. Have you ever set a goal, only to lack the motivation to achieve it? You see, goals by themselves do not motivate you. Goals merely provide you with a direction and target to hit. What truly motivates you is the purpose behind the goal.

The 'why' is very important! (Read more about this in the next success tip). So, after setting a goal (e.g. like losing 14kg), you must then think of and write down all the reasons WHY it is important for you. Only when the why is strong enough will you get the motivation to take action.

Deadline. Another main reason why people never achieve their goals is because they have no definite deadline or time frame. Most people tell themselves that 'someday' they will start that business, so they continue waiting for that 'someday' to come. Many people are still waiting.

To get yourself moving, you must set a deadline and make it real by having a self penalty for exceeding it. For example, make a bet with some friends that if it is not done by then, you will pay $500 penalty. You can bet that this will get you going.

Action Plan
Finally, goals are nothing but pipedreams unless you develop an action plan to make it happen. You action plan must specify all the steps to be done (as well as the deadline) to achieve the goal. My personal secret is that I get myself to take 3 action step within 36 hours that will set the goal into motion.

For example, if my goal was to write a book with a 1-year deadline, I would write a table of contents, make an appointment with a publisher and hire a book cover designer within 36 hours. Once you take the first few steps, you will gain the momentum to continue until the goal is achieved.

To Your Success,

Adam Khoo
www.SecretsOfSelf-MadeMillionaires.com

Reflections

2007-01-08T08:28:00.000+08:00

If we could shrink the earth's population to a village of precisely 100 people, with all the existing human ratios remaining the same, it would look something like the following:

There would be:
57 Asians
21 Europeans
14 from the Western Hemisphere, both north and south
8 Africans

52 would be female
48 would be male

70 would be non-white
30 would be white

70 would be non-Christian
30 would be Christian

89 would be heterosexual
11 would be homosexual

6 people would possess 59% of the entire world's wealth
and all 6 would be from the United States.

80 would live in substandard housing
70 would be unable to read
50 would suffer from malnutrition
1 would be near death;
1 would be near birth
1 (yes, only 1) would have a college education
1 would own a computer

When one considers our world from such a compressed perspective, the need for acceptance, understanding and education becomes glaringly apparent.

The following is also something to ponder. If you woke up this morning withmore health than illness. you are more blessed than the million who will not survive this week.

If you have never experienced the danger of battle, the loneliness of imprisonment, the agony of torture, or the pangs of starvation you are ahead of 500 million people in the world.

If you can attend a church meeting without fear of harassment, arrest,torture, or death. you are more blessed than three billion people in the world.

If you have food in the refrigerator, clothes on your back, a roof overheadand a place to sleep. You are richer than 75% of this world.

If you have money in the bank, in your wallet, and spare change in a dish someplace you are among the top 8% of the world's wealthy.

If your parents are still alive and still married you are very rare, even in the United States and Canada.

If you can read this message, you just received a double blessing in thatsomeone was thinking of you, and furthermore, you are more blessed than over two billion people in the world that cannot read at all. Someone once said: What goes around comes around.

Work like you don't need the money.
Love like you've never been hurt.
Dance like nobody's watching.
Sing like nobody's listening.
Live like it's Heaven on Earth.

Thoughts

2007-01-07T01:10:00.000+08:00

There are moments in life when you miss someone so much that you want to pick them from your dreams and hug them.

Dream what you want to dream; go where you want to go; be what you want to be, because you have only one life and one chance to do all the things you want to do. May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human, enough hope to make you happy.

Always put yourself in others shoes. If you feel that it hurts you, it probably hurts the other person, too.

The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.

Happiness lives for those who cry, those who hurt, those who have searched, and those who tried, for only they can appreciate the importance of people who have touched their lives.

Love begins with a smile, grows with a kiss and ends with a tear.The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past, you can't go on well in life until you let go of your past failures and heart aches.

When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling.

Live your life so that when you die, you're the one who is smiling and everyone around you is crying.

90/10 Secret

2007-01-06T01:21:00.000+08:00

Discover the 90/10 Secret: It will change your life

The 90/10 secret is incredible! Very few know and apply this secret. The result? Millions of people are suffering undeserved stress, trials, problems, and heartache. They never seem to be a success in life. Bad days follow bad days. Terrible things seem to be constantly happening. Theirs is constant stress, lack of joy, and broken relationships. Worry consumes time, anger breaks friendships, and life seems dreary and is not enjoyed to the fullest.. Friends are lost. Life is a bore and often seems cruel. Does this describe you? If so, do not be discouraged. You can be different!. Understand and apply the 90/10 secret. It will change your life!

What is this secret?
10% of life is made up of what happens to you.
90% of life is decided by how you react.

What does this mean? We really have no control over 10% of what happensto us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane may be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%.

The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%! How? By your reaction. You cannot control a red light, but you can control your reaction. Don't let people fool you, YOU can control how you react! Let's use an example.

You're eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just happened. What happens next will be determined by how you react.

You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the coffee cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize them for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt.

Back downstairs you find your daughter has been to busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit.

After a 15 minute delay and throwing $60 (traffic fine) away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs to the building without saying good-bye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase.

Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to going home. When you arrive home you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.

Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning.

Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the Policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?

The answer is D. You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.

Here is what could have and should have happened.

Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say "It's OK honey, you just need to be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase.You come back down in time look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You and your spouse kiss before you both goto work. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good of day you are having.

Notice the difference. Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different. Why? Because of how you REACTED. You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% is determined by your reaction.

Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 secret.

- If someone says something negative about you, do not be sponge. Letthe attack roll off like water on glass. You do have to let the negative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out, etc.

- How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you loose your temper? Pound the steering wheel? (A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off!) Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you tryand bump them? WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the blue car ruin your drive. Remember the 90-10 principle, and do not worry about it!

- You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep or get irritated? Itwill work out. Use your "worrying" energy and time into finding another job.

- The plane is late. It is going to mangle your schedule for the day.Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant? She has no controlover what is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger, etc. Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse.

You now know the 90-10 secret. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results.

The 1% Solution

2007-01-05T11:22:00.000+08:00

THE ONE PERCENT SOLUTION
By Philip E. Humbert, PhD

Many years ago, someone told me that the key to success is not doing something big or spectacular, but doing the little things extraordinarily well.

When we think of Olympic athletes, it's tempting to pretend that they are somehow "different." We tell ourselves they were born with incredible strength or unusual talent, or had training that we could never get for ourselves. We look at Michael Jordon in sports, or we compare ourselves to Barbra Streisand as an entertainer, and say, "I could never do that."

While there is truth in acknowledging their incredible talent, there is also a lie in pretending that because we don't have their genetic gifts, we are somehow excused from the necessity of doing our best. That is simply not true!

The vast majority of highly successful people, in any area of life, are simply those who worked a bit harder, stayed a bit longer, and did a bit more.

The highest paid people in any industry earn many times more than the average income. Is that because they are 100 times smarter? Are they 50 times more ambitious? Do they work 20 times harder or do they have more hours in a day? Of course not!

The highest paid, most successful people do the little things extremely well. They remember the details, acknowledge their friends, and they keep their promises. They return phone calls on time. They remember to say "Please" and "Thank You!," and they smile. They get to work just a bit earlier, make one or two more calls or stay just a bit later at the end of the day. The simple truth is this: They go the extra mile, and it makes a difference.

They take care of the "little things", and the difference is reflected in their paychecks!

What opportunities do you have to improve your performance by just 1 percent this week? It's called the "1 Percent Solution", and over time, it makes all the difference!

The Resolve to Succeed

2007-01-04T17:37:00.000+08:00

If your New Year's resolution involves career advancement, you're not alone.

A poll by myGoals.com found that starting a business ranks second only to losing weight as the most popular New Year's resolution for 2007.

Other resolutions on the list are being financially independent and starting the search for a new job.

At least half of our waking hours are spent on the job and going to and from the job. It stands to reason that improving this major component of one's life can lead to greater overall happiness. But if you want to be more successful climbing the corporate ladder, you need some focus. With that in mind, here is a list of resolution worth considering for employers, entrepreneurs and employees.

- Career Goals
Job Seeking, Education & Skills, Entrepreneurship, Promotions...
- Time Management & Organization Goals
Recordkeeping, Housekeeping, Budgeting Your Time, Staying in Touch...
- Health & Fitness Goals
Exercise, Nutrition, Weight-Loss, Peak Performance, Cosmetic Surgery...
- Family & Relationship Goals
Friends, Romance & Marriage, Family, People Skills, Family Goals...
- Personal Finance Goals
Investing, Paying Off Debt, Cutting Expenses, Charity & Philanthropy...
- Education & Training Goals
College & Grad School, Job Related, K-12, Languages, Technical Literacy...
- Personal Growth & Interest Goals
Arts, Music, Writing, Community, Spirituality, Joie de Vivre...
- Recreation & Leisure Goals
Travel, Boating, Golf, Outdoors, Cooking, Dancing...
- Home Improvement & Real Estate Goals
Kitchen, Pool, Buying a Home, Rental Property, Cabin, Garden...

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